im not sure what u want to hear but let me tell you, before i was with XP i was very sexual person, then when i was with him i 'went off' sex (i got pg straight away and put it down to loosing my sex drive from being pg) but once we broke up i realised it was just him i wasnt attracted to! so i say go with ur gut feeling....think about it....XH only got upset cause he knows u were with someone else, he didnt come back off his own bat..... GL hunni