i have 3 babes and am currently going through a divorce. my ex was the same as you are describing, it started happening when i was preg with our 2nd but i stuck it out and discussed as much as i could with him he appeared to turn himself around and be there for me and the kids found out i was preg with 3rd babe when my son was just 5mths old during this pregnancy he started to slip back into his old ways when our daughter was born there were alot of complications and we almost lost her this out alot of stress on all of us especially me tho as i was having to look after my 2 older kids and be strong but also be at the hospital as much as i could for my baby. he didnt seem to care at all he just kept going out with friends and doing all those "guy" things. when my baby was about 6mths i decided enough was enough and i left him i couldnt take it anymore i was unhappy living in that house with him but basically being a single mum so i packed up the kids and left and took on my life as a happy single mum. my life actually got easier without having to chase after him, and because i was in a happier and clamer place my kids were the same. the kids see their dad on school hols when it suits him as he is in another state. but i dont have to deal with his crap anymore (except trying to get him tosign divorce papers) i have since met someone who is fantastic and has stepped up and accepted my kids he treats us with the respect we deserve there are good guys out there just takes afew bad ones to get a good one. i hope your man sees what he is doing and steps up to the plate but just think about what is going to make you and your kids happy. remember a leopard nevers changes it spots xx