hi all
right now i am feeling like i am the most useless *****test single mother alive.
i'm wondering if all women out there find it as hard as i do at times
or if i just suck at being a mum.
i love my daughter so very much
but tonight i feel so sick of her
so sick of doing everything for her and never having anything left for me
i work so hard .. i am doing a uni degree so that i can provide for her
and i feel she just wants and wants and wants..
wipe her ass,, feed her,, clothe her
entertain her.. be mummy and daddy
today i just wanted to cry
she woke up at just before 5
wouldnt go back to sleep..
all day whinging and tantrums.. making a mess.. pulling everything out of every place
tried to get her dressed for going out.. screaming, kicking
we go to the chemist.. she lays down on the floor screaming because she doesnt want to put back everything that she has taken off the shelves
i just wanted to scream 'get up off the floor!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!'
i put her to bed early cause i just felt i needed to be by myself..which of course she hated.
i do love her more than life
but sometimes i feel resentful and pi$$ed off
and i am just so sick of doing everything for her all the time..everything by myself..
no one to ever help out.
is it normal to feel this way?
or am i just a horrible mother
i didnt think being a single parent would be this hard
Hun i have no idea of your situation but i can tell you that what you have said is totaly normal. i have a partner to step up when i get frustrated enough, ihonestly have no idea how all the single parents stay sane!
You are doing what you can to improve your life and your DD's life, that alone says that you are trying and you love her.Please go easy on yourself, none of us are perfect and i am pretty sure that most of us have felt the way you are feeling at one stage or another.
thanks for replying mummy of 4
just feel guilty.. i kow how lucky i am to have my daughter
my first daughter was born prem and passed away
and i am so very lucky to have my little girl
it has been just her and i since before she was born
and i feel guilty that the only person that she has is feeling this way about her right now
i know i am all she has.. i am her whole world..and she doesn't understand..
just feel so bad that right now i wish i could have a break from her.
thats ok! i wish i could say something to make you feel better
wanting/ needing a break is a natural thing an if it is possible it might even be a good idea for you, toddlers are VERY demanding and it takes alot of energy and patience to last a day with them!!
I do get that you feel lucky to have her i my DD2 was born at 18 weeks and i know how lucky i am to have my older children but do you know what... i still get frustrated at them and i still get mad and i still walk away and have a break when i can.. I really hope that you start to feel a little better about the situation soon/ Like i said before i really wish there was something i could say to help you but all i can say is from the sound of it you are doing a wonderful job and your DD is very lucky to have yoU!!!
oh wow.....I have three and desperately want another but I still feel like this almost daily!!!
I have a DH and he does take the pressure off when he's home so I have HUGE respect for single parents!!!
Don't be too hard on yourself, really. Toddlers are so demanding and full on and HARD WORK. It's like being at work with no break!!
We ALL need time to ourselves....and as Mummies I think it's a basic need. To take care of our little ones we need to take care of us first. So don't ever feel guilty about needing time away. Trust me you will be a much better Mummy when you've had some time to you. I find I'm just more patient.....which goes a long way
So....is there a way to get some time alone? Maybe a half day at care or some family who could take her regularly for you? Seriously think about it, I need this time and I'm not a single parent! So I for one think you are a superhero
I have a partner who works looong hours but still he is here when not at work but i feel like you are describing ALOT!!
My two girls are driving me crazy at the moment and talking to my friends they are all going through it at the moment too. you are not a bad mum at all, you are doing the best you can for your princess and you should be proud of it. You are absolutely allowed to feel like screaming and losing the plot!!!
am i as horrible as i feel?
Reply With Quote
Bookmarks