Thanks Jessica. I'm definitely the primary carer (ex had a disability that is suddenly all better) which is why I'd prefer they can stay with me (at least) half the time. It will probably be a few months (i'm estimating) before I can get a place of my own and was thinking that it may be better for them to get used to going between two places rather than just me coming to them? Although our split is amicable I don't think we could get along for the amount of time that I want to spend with my babies! I'm really not sure if my ex would let me have the house for the sake of the kids because then he'd be in my position - having them transition and get used to a new place with him which defeats the purpose. It's hard because although staying in one place would be much easier for the kids, neither me or my ex want to have less than 50/50 care.