The arrangement with my step daughter is one week we have her and the next week she is with her mum (change over on Sunday afternoons).

She is 6yrs old and in year 1 at primary school and this arrangement works perfectly for us.. So she is spending a good amount of time with mum and dad.

We don't have any court orders in place that's just how we organized it. We didn't want her to feel like she was always being passed back and forth so we made it a full week.. Although if there is anything on at school or on weekends then all parents attend no matter whose week it is..

I definitely think 50/50 can work but it has to be well planned and you have to think about what arrangement will be best for your babies!

I think the big thing in a break up is communication.. When my DH and his ex split up they made an agreement to make sure it's amicable no matter what and to always do what's best for their daughter.. And so far they have both done that.. (Which has made it really easy for me and the ex's partner to be part of the family)

I would get them settled into their routine and try and not pass the kids back and forth all the time, it's really disruptive and confusing for them.. How can they get settled in and comfortable if they don't know where they will be sleeping that night?

My DSD was 3 and a half when her parents split and she understood- she asked my DH "is it because you and mummy fight lots" so I suppose the fact that she understood why they couldn't live together was a huge help and she had very few behavior problems. My DH was and still is very honest with her about everything and I think your doing the right thing by being honest with your son..

Things will get easier as time passes. Do what you think is best for your kids no matter what and try and be happy