Separating from DH - what do I do now!?

[feeb]

hugs sorry to hear things have not worked out.'

Good Luck with finding housing etc

[Freya]

I spoke to Centrelink, its all being processed. They are finding Dh a room on base as of tomorrow night but he is going to eat dinner with us every night as I dont want the kids going from dad-here-everyday to dad-gone-everyday in a blink. They are already noticing something is different so we've had some panic attacks and crying fits.
He's been upset and pretty angry with me, but cooperative. He's giving me majority of the furniture; signing over the Falcon to me and still paying off the last few thousand on the loan anyway. He wants us to try and be as amiable as possible for the kids sake. I hate seeing him upset but its for the best and I feel so...............relieved, like a weights been lifted.

Lulu - unfortunately the kids and I will be hotel-ing it up til I find a house to live in as the only family I could stay with is my Dad but he doesnt have the room for 3 kids + 1 adult (plus its a completel hovel, not even rats would live there!). Dh is actually switching his posting to Sydney so its just a matter of WHEN they can get him there once a spot is available; could be at the end of my 28 days or in 6 mths. He's hoping if its this month or next month that the military will let me stay til he can remove his furniture too so it all goes together and saved them paying for two separate removals. Means he can fly down with me too as I have 2 under 2 so Im one adult short for the flight.

Im going to see if I can find the $$$ to fly down to Sydney for a week if they cant move us anytime soon so I can do a quick run around viewing and applying for houses in the area I want to live in. Hopefully if I do that someone will pick us and we can just move into a house once the furniture arrives (which would be 4wks from uplift).

[Michelle71]

Anna PM me which area of Sydney you are looking at and I will see what I can do / help with. Is DH looking to be posted to the army base in Sydney and are you looking at that area too or somewhere else?? Make sure you are looking after yourself

[squidipa]

Anna so glad to hear form you again i was getting worried i have pmed you. Im glad that ur have things sorted as much as it can be. With my ex we try very hard to keep personal feelings out of it and just think solely on "does this benefit the kids" and our desitions come form that alone good luck! you have been offered some good support here in the forum i would take ppl up if i was you save your cash.

U will need support. I spent loads of time crying after my separation even tho i knew it was right to do, its when the kids get upset that would upset me. You need the support too!

[Cougar]

anna..sorry to hear this hugs to you

i would of suggested talking to a social worker from centrelink, after craig passed, and i did a big move ( not as big as you) i spoke to a social worker, they contacted every relevent department on my behalf, so it saved me doing it all... , ..but i went thorugh the department of housing , the social worker orgaised everything and i got my bond paid and one weeks rent paid as well, so i was left with just i week to pay when i moved in, i think on the child support question it just automaticly happens when you do your single parenting claim.....i know centrelink have a crises payment...not sure what you need to qualify..i got it years ago when i left DH1.

[Deejoy17]

Anna - I just wanted to send you some hugs and let you know I`m thinking of you

[tk1999]

Anna PM me which area of Sydney you are looking at and I will see what I can do / help with. Is DH looking to be posted to the army base in Sydney and are you looking at that area too or somewhere else?? Make sure you are looking after yourself

:yeahthat:

There are army bases in SW Sydney (Holsworthy) which I am not far from... if I can help in some way I am happy to try... unfortunately I don't have room for you and the kids (we are in a 2br townhouse and the spare room is not livable as yet ) but if I can help to look at things available I am happy to try and assist.

[Jewel]

I'm sorry to hear things didn't work out. I hope the move goes smoothly for you guys. Good luck with everything.
Big hugs!

xox

[organicem]

Hi Anna
I really feel for you...my hubby left this morning for good so I know what you are going through and have some of it figured out.

Call C'Link as someone else said do it first thing in the morning.

With rentals...you will usually need 4 weeks rent and 4 weeks for bond. You will be ok getting a place to rent, most realestates i've come across down here prefer parents.
Not sure what area you are thinking of but some are cheaper than others...if you want more advice just ask!!

You can get form for child support online. You can either have them decide the amount or you can have a priovate agreement (you just write down what the agreement is and lodge it with them).

I live in the Holroyd area so if there is anything I can do for you just ask. Will you need a place to stay when looking for a home? I have spare beds!!