2.5yrs later, we're still struggling, to work out how to do annual celebrations. We have so little family, it's very lonely for my child, to have an annual celebration, just one parent and her. The communication between her father and i is not good, hence xmas eve last year, neither of us knew where bilby would be spending xmas day. Xmas Day was messy and sad. So much stress, every annual event (yes, i am dreading Easter for same reason). Last year, i didn't get to see my own child, on Mother's Day or my birthday, until, like very late in the day, and it was random, so i was unprepared. Instead of being a happy time, i was grimacing thru tears, trying to put a brave face on for bilby but failing pretty bad.