Thanks everyone- it's nice to feel supported in what im doing. i do think -know that it's the right choice for bub and me. I'm lucky my (twin) sister moved up here not long ago so i'm staying with her (which she loves havn bub n me around more) not much luck with centrelink so far, ive had to apply for my birth cert. as i had to leave quickly and didnt grab alot of things, theyve taken money off of me until i get id check- im so lucky to have my sis otherwise i could have been on the streets. All of my friends and family that have stuck by me are thrilled and are really doing anythin they can do to help me. I just feel a bit stupid for staying in that relationship so long. It's nice to have this site here, it feels alot safer or less scary then talking to people about it- i think i just have to rebuild my confidence a bit b4 i can really trust anyone again.