Single Parents General Chatter - Dec 2007-Jan 2008

[Early Kids]

Mel, I loved Melb, it was just gorgeous.... I still cant get over how many parks there are!! Definately no shortage there... lol

Anna, hello and welcome to our lil thread So sorry to hear of your situation. Big congrats on your lovely children and bubba number 3!

I start house hunting soon.... Nigel and i have sorted out a fair bit now and while we are on friendly terms I'm really not sure if I cant trust him to stay with me... it keeps sticking to me that he's done it once, has he really learnt his lesson or not?? So I'm not really sure if I can afford to live by myself but not really sure if I want to live with him either... aaargh. I'm sure we'll (i'll) work something out!!

take care

[Lilly-Pilly]

Hey Anna, Sorry to hear you're having such a yucky time, your ex sounds like a complete idiot.

I never can understand how a parent can just move away and forget about their kids like that. My dad was pretty much the same as your ex. I'm not 27 and have only JUSTforgiven him for the past and got to know him again. I was 5 when he left. I don't think they even realise the effect it has on the kids when they do stuff like that.

We're all here to talk to and support each other through all the cr@p Let us know if there is ever anything we can do to help or if you just need to talk.

It gets better, I promise it does...

[Mellybubz]

Hi Anna,
I'm not too sure about his rights... your solicitor might be the one who can give you a bit more information on that. It must be very difficult for you but I'm proud of you... sounds like you're doing a great job of what you have left and your boys are very lucky to have a mummy who's as strong as you. Do you have much other family around to support you?. How is pregnancy treating you?
Mel.

[Lilly-Pilly]

Lea, i've found a few things for you, can you PM me an address I can post them to??

And does anyone need any girls winter pajamas in size 5 or 6? I have HEAPS here and they are all in excellent condition. If anyone wants them let me know

[Lilly-Pilly]

Hey Lea, sorry i havent posted anything off yet, been a crazy last two weeks around here.
Should her to the post office some time this week!

How is everyone going?

[Early Kids]

Hello everyone

We are doing well, Brendan is a lil monkey and into EVERYTHING! lol

I just ahve a questions for you ladies, I know a few of you have been single parenting for a while so here goes:

My DP (we aren't living together but have resolved some issues, so are seeing each other, if that makes sense?) has had a new job for about 5 weeks now and my child support payments haven't changed, so i'm assuming he hasn't otld them yet. I don't want him to get into trouble, but I want the money. ATM he's only paying $27 a month (that covers 2 tins of formula, which lasts a week and a half) Woopdy do!

So my question is, should I just ring CSA and tell them? Or do I keep on his back and try and get him to do it, it is afterall his resposibility.

Thanks heaps for any input!
Take care

[Amity]

AMH, I'm so sorry to hear of your situation. It's awkward to say the least. I think you should speak with your solicitor ASAP. It ought to be up to HIM to make the effort to see the kids, but you have to be reasonable as well. (Not that you're not IYKWIM).

Brendansmum, I think you should try and work it out with DP rather than CSA - you'd have to lodge a change of assessment on the basis that he's now working, and in your situation I think it'd be better just to try and work it out with him. There's a calculator on the CSA website that you can work around, if you know what his income is. Explain to him how much it costs with Brendan!

Nothing much changed on my front, it's been a difficult few weeks, but I'll get over it. XH being a PITA, but that's SNAFU.

Oh there is one thing - I'm getting divorced in 11 days..... not that I'm counting! XH's last XP (mother of his 16yo daughter) wants to come to our divorce hearing, now THAT'S wierd... hmmm... maybe there's some unresolved issues there...

Hope you're all well.