and it starts again

[widdly]

DH has found a place to rent but cant move in til the end of April, so he is staying with me til then, which i dont have an issue with at all. So what usually happens is when he gets paid on a Friday he will pay the rent via Bpay. Last week we signed the lease over to my name only. I got my first centrelink payment today and figured I would pay half the rent and DH could pay half, seeing as he is living there still.

Well, I am 6 hours away on holiday with family atm adn DH is home, so I called him last night to make sure he would pay the rent via Bpay as usual. He said no he wouldnt be paying the rent anymore. Just like that. No discussion nothing, just no I wont be paying it. I told him he needed to pay it cause I dont have internet banking or a credit card so cant pay it from here. He reckons he will have to pay the rent for me with his credit card, and was none too happy about it and made sure i understood that i would be paying him back. RIIIIIGHT.

So firstly, where does he get off thinking he can live rent free all of a sudden.

Secondly, he is only paying me $100 CS when he is meant to pay $250.

Thirdly, why the hell hasnt he got money in his account to pay the rent as usual??? He only gets paid today, yet he has no money?



Oh, and on the phone his voice was completely different to me and there was no "love you" at the end of the phone call like normal.

SO it seems the control games have begun again.

Game on, Im a heck of a lot stronger this time round buddy boy.

[~ Zarava Flutterby ~]

Aww hun... what a PITA.

When you get home i would pay him back your half and tell him if he thinks he is living in YOUR house rent free he can bugger off.
He doesn't wanna pay then he can come home and find his clothes out the front and the locks changed!

How dare he try and manipulate you like that.

Game on, Im a heck of a lot stronger this time round buddy boy.

Stay strong and remember your a strong, independent woman and you will do what you need to do for you and your lil one.

[~Kim~]

That'a'girl!

Don't you let him tread on you! Or I will come by on my way to the NT to back you up!

[Lulu]

Get into the ring BOYO!

You are in for a biiiig shock...

[Butterfly Child]

yeh i would be making cs more official and don't let him take you for granted!
thinking of u hun and remember you are one strong women!

[LionsandBears]

If he doesn't pay rent, then kick him out and change the locks. He can go doss with his mum or some mates. Sorry you're going through this again, but good on you for being stronger. I wouldn't be paying him back if he owes you CS either.

btw - did he say he wouldn't be contributing to rent at all, or just that he wouldn't be making BPAY payments anymore?

[widdly]

he made it clear that he has no intention on paying rent any more. And, yeah you are prolly right about the CS he hasnt paid....I need to take my own advice and not pussy foot around him this time, the poo will hit the fan eventually, might as well be now...

thanks BC x

Yeah Lulu, LOOK OUT!

[smiles4u]

That'a'girl!

Don't you let him tread on you! Or I will come by on my way to the NT to back you up!

... and i will come from the other side of SA !!

OMG Elissa it's been such a rollercoaster for you, i truly feel for you ... all i can say gorgeous woman is you did above and beyond as any human being could do ... and one day Archie will know what a determined Mum you were to try and try and try ... so PROUD of you matie but sadly it is time to move ahead in life for YOU, who's looking after YOU, Archie will always have you to look after him but you need to look after you from here on and free yourself of the emotional stress you have endured all this time ... I said on someone's else's thread awhile ago love isn't everything infact it's not always enough ... you know what comes close to enough doesn't have to be happy-joy-joy BUT just to be content within yourself & your life ... and one day when you do find a companion that you just feel comfortable with & no looking over you shoulder look at it like they are adding to your life ... don't met someone that's gonna take something away from you or your life cause that aint enriching your life.

I'm not gonna lie the loneliness is the hardest part & yeh as you know the nights, not all nights just some ... will feel the worst of times but just remember this IT WON'T LAST FOREVER !!!!!!! ... (trust me i have experienced those feelings)

My biggest warmest hugs to you Elissa, it takes a lot of courage and you have that in you ... YOU & Archie deserve an atmosphere of some level of peace & harmony, you can do it

[widdly]

Lorelle, thankyou so much, your words really made a lot of sense to me x

well I drove back home on Saturday, got home at tea time and all i wanted to do was hit the town and pick up Sunday Night Guy again. Ended up going out with my sister and having fun, Sunday Night Guy was out of town, but was keen to catch ASAP. SO, I got home at 2am and DH woke up and came and hugged me told me how muched he missed me, I just started bawling, couldnt say a word, I mean, had Sunday Night Guy been in town I would have gone home with him!

I told DH I didnt love him like I used to and he said he could tell, but that he loves me more than anything and I am his everything and I am amazing and he is so sory I dont realise that. I told him I was happy to cheat on him that night and that must mean we need to split up, but he just kept being so wonderful and supportive and telling me we can fix things and he will look after me and make me happy.

OH GAWD! I told him all that and he still loves me and doesnt want to leave??? GOLLY!

SO, of course then I feel like maybe we can eventually work all this out. So freakin confused and emotional all over again. I feel like a broken record in here! round and round in circles I go.

[Oorki Galoorki]

Widdly i think only you can make the decision, follow your heart or head or both.
but until you REALLY know what you want in life for yourself you can not expect to find it in someone else.
do not wait for someone to fill in what is missing.

[widdly]

thanks hun

I just remembered that he gave me $200 to pay for petrol adn food to come up here for a holiday, so I will let him off paying the rent this one time cause then we will be square and he will have nothing to hold over me. But I will be letting him know that he will be paying half the rent next pay. I will also be making CS more official.

yeah Kim, thanks for the backup!!

[ElleJay]

Stay strong hun (though I know you will)
I say, he's still living under that roof, he should pay at least half

[Beatrix]

Oh what a peice of work....


def make it all official with child support and kick him to the curb. If he lives with u he pays rent. its pretty simple..


good luck hun and we are here for you

[widdly]

thanks so much, it means so much that you are all here for me.

Called him today to make sure he had paid the rent for me. He said I have no intention on ;paying the rent I cant afford it. I asked where all his pay went and he just said, well I d have to moive out you know....ummm yeah...at the end of the month! Anyway there was no point arguing it with him, it would have been like talking to a brick wall. So, I have to go to my bank on Monday and organise internet banking and pay it through Bpay which is all fine, just a pain in the butt cause the rent will now be late. Oh, and BTW, he is hitting the town tonight in style, so good on him, GGGRRR.

I called him again and asked him if we still like each other cause I sense a lot of yuck between us lately. His answer was, he is just finding all of this a little difficult to deal with atm. Oh my, he is never gonna grow up and grow a set is he?

[~Kim~]

First uhuh doesn't sound like it.

Second Monday is a Public Holiday....

[~Kim~]

First uhuh doesn't sound like it.

Second Monday is a Public Holiday....

[CrazyLady]

Aww hun... what a PITA.

When you get home i would pay him back your half and tell him if he thinks he is living in YOUR house rent free he can bugger off.
He doesn't wanna pay then he can come home and find his clothes out the front and the locks changed!

:yeahthat:

Freaking rude b@st@rd!

Stick to your guns girlie!