i was just wanting to hear other people's experiences in regards to separation... i'm in a relationship where basically we are just friends who live together and have a child, it has been like this for quite some time and my partner is incapable of talking about his feelings, refuses counselling, i'm really stuck with choosing to live like this or leave as i don't believe things can really get better... i am slowly coming to the conclusion that i would be happier out of the relationship and on my own... however this is such a major decision and i am filled with doubts over whether i would be doing the right thing... i'd love to hear some success stories of those who have been hesitant about leaving a partner but have ended up in a happier situation... i just keep thinking life is too short and really the only thing holding us together is our daughter, and im not sure its in her best interests really to have an unhappy mother and possibly father (im not sure how he feels he wont say)... i feel that kids are adaptable and can adjust, and as my little girl is justa toddler, i'm not too concerned with the effect it will have on her, as i think it will end up being a positive.

financially i would be better off (and i mean extremely better of) staying in the relationship, but i keep telling myself money isn't everything and lots of people have nothing and are more content than people who seem to 'have it all' but are miserable inside. i'm under 30 and have my whole life ahead of me... surely i'm too young to be in an unsatisfying loveless relationship?