I finally finished a beautiful photo frame of Emmanuel with his hand prints and foot prints and put one photo of him nicely dressed. My SIL came over this morning and when she saw his photo she says to me "aren't you embarassed that people will see his deformities". What the heck, how heartless. I replied by saying that Emmanuel is perfect to us and always will be. Emmanuel had six toes and six fingers which, if you didn't know about you can't tell in the prints but his cleft lip is clearly visible.
I'm just putting it down to her ignorance but her words did hurt. I think I'm just in a bit of shock that she would say something like this. His photo will definately remain in our lounge room as he will forever be part of our family.
It sounds beautiful, and a lovely way to remember him by. I'm sure he was a gorgeous little boy, no matter what he looked like. Some people really don't think before they speak.
Oh hun, I am so sad for you that she was so thoughtless . It sounds like such a lovely thing that you have done, I hope it brings you some pleasure and peace.
I have no idea???? But I am so sorry for you that she would be so cruel...like you say he is a much wanted and treasured part of your family and there is no reason to ever hide him away. Huge hugs and best wishes.xxxxx
Oh Dianne, how cruel of her. I'm so sorry, people can be so thoughtless - huge cyber hugs coming your way. Emmanuel was too perfect for this world. Place a kiss on his perfect little face in that picture from me. xx
I'm sorry someone said that to you. I guess people just don't understand the impact that thoughtless words can have. That really was an awful thing to say, but you know much better than that - Emmanuel chose the right mummy, who will honour his memory and remember him with love for who he was.
Obviously she is heartless, as anyone who you would allow in your home would know about your precious boy and understand that displaying his photo is your way of remembering him. It would bring me to tears.
Sorry, but I would never let that b!@ch into my house again.
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Oh Dianne, I am so sorry you had to hear words like that. I think the frame sounds beautiful and it would be an honour to see Emmanuel and share your memories, its a shame your SIL couldn't see that.
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Oh hun I am so sorry that someone especially family would be so cruel and heartless. Sounds like you have done a beautiful tribute in memory of Emmanual, he certinly picked the right family to be part of as you are remembering him for the beautiful son and brother he was to you all.
I can see how her words would have hurt you. I think it was a very thoughtless comment and your sister obviously didnt use her brain or heart before making it.
Emmanuel will always remain perfect. You keep that picture of him and his hand and footprints in your lounge room and you show them off with pride.
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Oh my goodness Dianne I cannot grasp the ignorance of this person... I am so incredibly sorry that she was so tactless and - stupid! (I was looking for a more eloquent word but couldn't find one that fitted)
What you have done is beautiful - for your beautiful little boy. Isn't it interesting how so many in our society cannot see the beauty in all children not just the ones that fit a certain criteria...
I send you my love darling woman - and a hug - it must have felt so confronting to hear those thoughtless and ignorant words.
The photo/prints sound like a lovely tribute to your beautiful boy and rightly deserves pride of place! I hope your SiL is truly ignorant of the hurt she caused with her thoughtless and cruel words - as I would hate to think a member of your family (or anyone for that matter) would be so nasty on purpose.
How thoughtless - regardless of her personal thoughts on how she'd handle such an event, I would be proud of your strength in recognising and celebrating a little man too good for this earth.
Oh Dianne, I'm so sorry you've had to hear that awful comment from your SIL . Obviously she has no idea (I'm guessing she hasn't lost a baby). Big hugs to you and know that there is a small number of stupid, ignorant and obviously 'foot in the mouth' people out there, but you know that your little boy is perfect, and he always will be, no matter what other people might think/say.
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How could she be so nasty?
I guess people just don't understand the impact that thoughtless words can have. That really was an awful thing to say, but you know much better than that - Emmanuel chose the right mummy, who will honour his memory and remember him with love for who he was.
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