How could she be so nasty?

[Inanna]

Oh my goodness Dianne I cannot grasp the ignorance of this person... I am so incredibly sorry that she was so tactless and - stupid! (I was looking for a more eloquent word but couldn't find one that fitted)

What you have done is beautiful - for your beautiful little boy. Isn't it interesting how so many in our society cannot see the beauty in all children not just the ones that fit a certain criteria...

I send you my love darling woman - and a hug - it must have felt so confronting to hear those thoughtless and ignorant words.

[Amaunet]

The photo/prints sound like a lovely tribute to your beautiful boy and rightly deserves pride of place! I hope your SiL is truly ignorant of the hurt she caused with her thoughtless and cruel words - as I would hate to think a member of your family (or anyone for that matter) would be so nasty on purpose.

[Kazbah]

How thoughtless - regardless of her personal thoughts on how she'd handle such an event, I would be proud of your strength in recognising and celebrating a little man too good for this earth.

*hugs* kaz

[Miss.B]

Oh Dianne, I'm so sorry you've had to hear that awful comment from your SIL . Obviously she has no idea (I'm guessing she hasn't lost a baby). Big hugs to you and know that there is a small number of stupid, ignorant and obviously 'foot in the mouth' people out there, but you know that your little boy is perfect, and he always will be, no matter what other people might think/say.

[thepixie]

have to bite my tongue - my thoughts on someone who would say that to you are not fit to print!

your little boy is perfect, and he always will be, no matter what other people might think/say.

beata said it perfectly.
to you and you're a sweet mummy to create such a precious memorial to your beautiful boy.

[skeetaboat]

Is she 12 years old or something? That sounds like such a stupid, immature thing to say. Why on earth would anyone think that your beautiful little baby could be anything to feel ashamed of?? I just don't understand. It sounds like she's not right in the head to me.

What a lovely memorial to have made up. xxxx

[tippytoes]

Oh that is the most thoughtless, hurtful thing to say. Of course he is perfect and he is your precious little guy. Sending you lots of . I would have been furious and let her know about it..grrrr. You did well to control yourself.
Rach xx

[Queen]

How heartless, she is obviously jealous of your perfect angel boy!

I am sorry for your loss and sorry your SIL is not more supportive

[diannescruffy]

Thank you all for your lovely supportive words. I will continue to have his frame hanging proudly in the lounge and as someone said she is the one who should be embarassed. Pitty she is family because if it was a friend I would have told her to leave my house and never come back.

Regards,
Dianne

[Shanti]

how awful... what an awful thing to say to a mother about her child... I'm so sorry she was so disgustingly rude and tactless towards you. What a not-so-nice person she is.

you deserve a HUGE apology from her. I would understand if you never spoke to her again for saying that.....that is just a horrific thing to say to someone. (regardless of if the child is passed away or alive).

Stand proud because you have every right to be

[Trillian]

Far out! I can't believe she actually said something like that to you. I hope she never has the apparent misfortune to have a child who is less than perfect in a physical sense because to say something like that is just so shallow. Emmanuel was perfect and you should be showing him off to everyone who comes to your home

[~clover~]

My MIL proudly has the photo's of her DS Thomas (lost him to trisomy 13 also) on her wall with everyone having turns holding him. He's wrapped in a blanket, so you can't see much, but its there. He was her baby & she/they thought he was beautiful no matter what was visibly wrong with him.

She also lost a baby before him to SIDS, but only has one photo up of him as it was unexpected & its the only photo she has. She's so greatful she got the chance to get photo's of Thomas.

I'm sure its beautiful xx

[blessedatlast]

Oh Dianne, what an awful thing for someone to say! Of course you should have the picture up! for you.

[Samcougar]

How thoughtless and ignorant of this person who is supposed to be family!! I cant believe the nerve of some people!! People just open their mouths before they think.
I'm sorry she said this to you, your little man I’m sure is perfect. Big hugs hun please don't take any notice of that half wit!

[fourthontheway]

My son was 28w stillborn and I know some people don't like to see him either, but that's their problem, not mine.

I'm so sorry your sil said such a hurtful thing to you, lots of love to you xxxx

[smiles4u]

OMG, my heart just broke to think not just anyone but your SIL could say such a hurtful & shocking thing ... she's the one whom should feel ashamed of HERSELF (and this is her nephew she is speaking of) ...

OUR babies are babies, and our babies are BEAUTIFUL not only to us parents but to anyone else who willingly loved them whether they knew them on earth side or not (he was in your tummy & here for sometime, enough time for those that wanted to, to truely care about him ... yes Auntie's included) ...

I'm so so glad you have placed him for all to see just as he was & always will be part of your own loving family xoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxox