DS had his 4th birthday party on Saturday. I would just like to say that I also had not gotten any sleep since 7am Friday (due to making the cake, cleaning etc, that I didn't have time to do earlier because I've been on Prac for Uni lately and it didn't leave much time for anything other than Prac and looking after DS) so maybe that affected me and made me feel more sensitive to xDP's remarks.

XDP hasn't seen DS since last December so it was nice that he was able to come up for DS's birthday party. And to be honest I kind of organised to have a party after he said he was coming up because I didn't want to be in a situation where I had to talk to him without anyone around, since I didn't want to have the possibility of me saying something stupid if I get upset.
Now, XDP arrives, comes inside and asks DS if he wants to see his new car. This coming from the guy who pays $28 a month in CS, and has even missed some months although why he hasn't paid is beyond me. He then came back in and started talking to my Mum about his work, that he had his own business, but had to merge it with another company and it has made $70,000 in profit over the last year or something. Mum just said "Well, that must be nice for you, but how will that effect your child support payments?" hah I could have laughed, but I didn't want to upset him, so I just smiled to myself. He then started talking to me about how expensive the present was that he got DS, I told him DS wanted a transformer toy, but it wouldn't matter which one as long as it was Bumblebee. And said he would have bought him more but didn't want to "out do anyone." So I told DS to show him the bike I got him and get his daddy to help him ride it.
He then spent the rest of the time just basically saying so many little things that just seemed a bit inconsiderate:
  • telling everyone about how well his business is doing,
  • bringing in his new laptop to show me something,

  • saying that he can't see how me and my friend (who is also a single mother and doing university) can study and look after our children,
  • telling DS that he got him the "best present" and that he loves DS the most,
  • talking about how his GF is at Erina Fair (a large shopping complex) and he gave her his credit card which was probably a bad idea as she may be maxing it out,

  • he even whined that he'd have to work the next two weekends because he took this one off to see DS.


Now I'm happy for him that his business is doing so well, and it's not really about the amount of money he pays in CS, it's more the principle of it all, if he's earning so much and doing so well he should be sharing some of that wealth and good fortune with DS. And I don't think it's best time to be talking about that type of stuff at DS's birthday party, I mean DS didn't notice and he had a great time, but I didn't want to hear about it, and neither did anyone else. But then again I hadn't gotten much sleep lately so I may just be being a sook.

Although it was kind of funny, after he'd been there for a few minutes, I stood looking at him and listening to him ramble on about himself and I thought, "How did I ever date this man, and manage to have a child with him? How did I not see this all before?" and I had to laugh at that, for some reason it seemed amusing to me.