Teaching your kids values

[mygirlsmummy]

Just a question- 'What values do you consider important for your kids to learn'?

I only have two little ones, and will be beginning the journey of values education soon. I was just wondering what other parents deem are 'important values', that they wish their kids to learn.

I guess I see a lot of kids at school who often lack some fundamental values (IMO), e.g. honesty, respect etc. Therefore, I guess I am curious as to what other parents deem important or critical values.

[MissM]

I have taught DD to be honest even if she knows she will get in trouble it is much better to be honest rather than find out later she has told a lie (she knows she would be in more trouble if she were to lie)

Respect - for herself and others and belongings

ATM we are trying to 'teach' her to pick up after herself (shes 8 BTW) she has a habit of leaving things around and we ALWAYS have to remind her to pick her things up.

Manners is also important. Too many people go through the day without saying please/Thank you

Thats all I can think of right now ... LOL

[Ca Plane Pour Moi]

I think I want DS to learn, most of all, that other people are just as important as he is.

That way, he knows he is important. He values respecting others, honesty and politeness. He cares about the opinions of others, but not so much that it will pressure him into things he doesn't want to do.

I also want him to embrace and show Christian ethics - to truly love others for who they are and appreciate them.

[AliBaby]

At school we have core values which I think are great. They are constantly referred too .

They are:

Truth, respect, responsibility, kindness, effort and loyalty.

We talk about what it looks like, sounds like, feels like to have these values.

[mrsmac]

In NSW we now have 9 values which we teach, I am pretty sure its mandatory in all schools (public) I will check what they are LOL as we only started last year and we aren't doing them until term 2 LOL

[Chocaholic]

I think I want DS to learn, most of all, that other people are just as important as he is.

That way, he knows he is important. He values respecting others, honesty and politeness. He cares about the opinions of others, but not so much that it will pressure him into things he doesn't want to do.

I also want him to embrace and show Christian ethics - to truly love others for who they are and appreciate them.

:yeahthat:

Couldn't have said it better. Honesty and respecting others are very important and I try to drum that into my kids every day.

I must say it is very disheartening and downright sad the looks of surprise I get when my 3.5y.o. says thank you, you're welcome or excuse me. When did manners stop being important?

[Indadhanu]

Respect. I think respect is the most important thing. Having respect for others means you use manners, share, cooperate, don't hit or yell, tell people the truth... it goes on. For us, respect is the core value. I think everything is related to respect - respecting others, our differences and similarities. Treating people with respect means talking and acting nicely, telling the truth and being loyal, being gentle, sharing. Respect for the environment (home, school, other peoples homes and nature etc). Also respect for ourselves too.

This is what we model, and we hope Jazz embraces this.

[Mother Goose]

respect (others and self)
grace
being humble
kindness
manners (which she is doing very well with)
patience
loyalty
honesty
sincerity

[deletedit]

Been trying to teach Child Elder to ask for things for 9 years with no success. Other child very nicely asks for things and says tankyoo when you give them to her and will ask for things on big sister's behalf now.

Also been trying for years to get the big one to talk to people in the same room as her and not just yell from 3 rooms away, but unfortunately little sister has this one figured too and when we don't respond to distant yells little sister comes in and passes on very nicely whatever big sister is yelling about, so I don't think we're ever going to get on top of either of these.

Elder child is quite rude to her friends and hurts people and thinks it is funny when people are upset or hurt, little one sees people in pain and says they are "sad" and will actually start crying when she sees someone else cry, or tries to comfort them. I'm at a loss what to do with this one.

Basically, I'm breeding one rude and one polite child in the same house somehow ...

[Krisvee]

Hi!

I came across this great website called character first - you can google it - it is very american but I think it's a great program!
It was a bit sad when I looked at the list of character traits and realised I didn't even have half of them - and that some traits I had the wrong meaning for!

I always thought I was "compassionate" and then realised that all along I only had "empathy" for others...

I'm considering it a big learning opportunity for the whole family! It's so hard if you haven't been taught these things by your parents...but I think the most important thing is to teach by example - if I don't have a certain trait or value how on earth can I expect my children??

I figure to a degree kids will learn at their own pace...and sometimes they'll learn the hard way when something wrong is done to them and they realise they don't like it...

[misty]

Respect, honesty, manners, consideration, empathy, etc,

The core catholic beliefs and values (think the ten comandments and all the lessions the parables teach us)

[*Sparklez*]

i agree with all the previous posts... i just want my kids to be true to themselves and to others too.. honesty and respect for me is the biggest at the moment with a 9 yr old n 8 yr old.. manners i instilled at very young ages so i dont have a porb with that at all for all 3 boys no please,thank u,excuse me, sorry etc... then they will not get anything without it.. n they believe me lol!!