Today I had to do a few things in town and DH gave me $50 and told me to get something for myself. Well I came home with a pair of thongs, on special for $3 and all the rest was for the kids. Every item I got for them was reduced so got my money's worth but it makes me happier to buy for them than myself. Now I can't wait for them to come home, each child has a few things on their bed .
Hmm can I say both? I definitely buy for the kids more than myself but if I spot pretty shoes its another story.
The more I think about it, now they are getting pocket money I probably buy them less because they are buying things themselves and we're trying to teach them about having to save up for bigger purchases.
A bit of both. One Christmas my DH gave me a cheap wallett with alot of cash in it for me to spend on clothes for myself. Over the next 3mths I bought little things for the kids, things for me and some for my DH as well.
If I am out shopping for me, I usually come home with soemthing for the kids as well, even if it's just a pair of jocks or socks, they love seeing things on their bed when they get home.
I remember as kid loving it if my Mum bought me a treat or something new while I was at school or she went shopping on her own.
Both as well. I consider my treats money for exercise (like the gym or soccer). I don't really tend to buy DS a lot of stuff but will take him out to the pool or the movies more for a treat.
I've stopped spoiling my children.
They have way too much "stuff" so I have introduced "anti-stuff" policies. I only buy toys for birthdays. If anyone else buys them a toy they can either give the toy straight to charity or they can select another toy that they own to go to charity and keep the new one. Pretty much the same with clothes. Books they can have lots of but they can't have crappy book that are TV/movie merchandising. If they break something that's it. It doesn't get replaced unless it is something they really need for school or sport and I will only replace it with the base version.
Always my son, then DH when he's been 'good' ..... Only myself if I really need it, like a hair dye when I look almost totally grey or a new pair of shoes when I really need it... I do need to spend more time on myself , now that I'm pregnant again it's also about the future bub and Do love a bargain
Heather my mum did exactly the same with me. The things I got them were things they need anyway, some items of clothing, shoes and DS15 needed some more sinkers for fishing but they still get excited probably because it's a surprise.
But it always stuff they need... I got DS some $2.87 shirts at Target today... he has very little clothes, and has just the movies/going to town with mates thing, so 3 new shirts mean the world to him, and cost me less than $10!!!!
With 6 of the little darlings, they cant be spoilt, but someone always needs something, so I never get around to "me" stuff.... I got fitted for the first time, ages ago, and bought one nice bra... that now doesnt fit anyway thanks to the bub......
So I give up, till they leave home!!! But then I guess I'll have grandkids.....
Always my children. My children are probably a little on the spolit side in some peoples eyes, but I will always prefer buying things for them before things for me. My DH is the same, we both find it hard to spend money on ourselves
All on me I go without enough stuff during the year, that if something like birthday money comes my way then I spend it on me. It maybe for a new pair of shoes, but at least it is mine!
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