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Ginger, not pleasant having "crime" so close, although like you point out, not likely to be a local.
Cass, good luck today, I'm sure your brilliance and hard work will shine .
BTW speaking of shining, the light box therapy is sitting in front of a special lamp at a particular time each day to reset your brain's circadian rhythms. They also use it (or similar) to sort out SADS.
Trill, I'm glad you're getting good prices for your lamb. I did think of you when I saw how much the lamb legs are at the shops (and didn't buy once cos I've been priced out of the roast lamb market ). *sigh*
This morning W was being a total PITA, I sent him to his room and when I went to check he had p***ed all over the floor! Not just an accident, it was everywhere in lines, not puddles and his pants were dry - he did it intentionally! I was soooo angry that I smacked his bum. Not the best moment but I have no idea what else to do with him!
Then I met DH down a country road to look at a section that is for sale. The second he drove away I accidentally locked my keys, phone and Amelia in there. We were at a dead end and no cars go down there. I tried to smash the window with a rock but it didn't work, tried to get a stick through to hit the unlock button but I couldn't. So I had to leave her in there screaming and go to the nearest house about 5 minutes away. It was abandoned, then there was no one home at the next place so I found a pitchfork in the yard and made my way back to the car. I smashed the back window open and got her out. Then I had to call DH to swap cars with me because mine had too much shattered glass to have the kids in there.
Now the insurance are saying it isn't covered because it was intentional damage - $600 to replace the window!
Then all afternoon W has been tantruming and being a general turd. There is something wrong with that kid. I am so over it.
oh Arte! that day takes the cake on horror happenings! how scary having to leave her there! good on you for thinking about the pitchfork...now i know a rock wont work....wow!
Oh no Arte, you must have been so stressed about leaving her there. And the insurance company are turds too. I'm with G though, it just isn't normal behaviour for a child to do what he did with weeing on the floor like that, everything is just getting worse with him and with the baby on the way you really need to have something sorted out to help him.
LMAO Trill, I remember you saying I needed to get W sorted out before the new baby two years ago and I am still in the same place!
What can a GP do?
Basically his behaviour is up the creek because his sleep is so crap. He is back to waking several times at night, often tantrums before bed and during the night when he wakes. Funny that MD mentions SADS because his behaviour is always so much worse going into winter. Feb/March for the last 3 years has been bad for us. He is also wanting us to sleep with him all night, he doesn't want to be alone. I am starting to wonder if this new insecurity has come from his recent realisation that people die (thanks earthquake), since it started at roughly the same time.
I have also cracked it big time with this comforted sleeping crap. It failed spectacularly the first time round, then I went and did the exact same thing and stupidly expected a different result. Well, that didn't work out and A is just as terrible at sleeping as W. She will not stay in her bed alone. She wakes about half an hour or so after I have managed to escape her and I have to lay with her again to resettle her (half the time she screams anyway). After doing that 3 or 4 times I usually give up around 3am and sleep in there with her just so I can get some sleep but that is just showing her if she keeps waking eventually I will stay there = not helpful.
This next kid is going to get a rude shock if it plans on having hourly feeds at night or wants to sleep with me, cos it just isn't happening.
Arte, it may have been a spectacular failure for you, but it sounds like it is the only thing that works for them. When we had to do it with A when he was going through the roughest of his reflux problems, I hated it - DH did too, but I had to just suck it up and do it because thats what worked best. Sometimes you have to put your own needs aside and do what works and what gets you all the most sleep.
With W's behaviour, when has he ever truly had a time when it was 100% good? He has always been a high maintenance child and true, it does seem to fluctuate depending on how bad his sleep is, but I think it is all part of a bigger problem. Going to a GP could help a lot - getting a referral to have a sleep study done on him would be a start and see if there is a neurological problem causing it, because maybe if there is a 'reason' for it, then there can be a solution to deal with it. I'm sure I speak for all of us when I say that we just want you to be able to have a night where you don't have a fight happen and that you can go to bed knowing that you wont be getting up 10 times before morning. Most of all I know how tough this is going to be once you have the baby - and my older two were brilliant sleepers, but still found it tough at times once P was born and getting used to dealing with 3 little ones on my own.
Arte- I think his behaviour is more than just due to a lack of sleep. I feel that you need to make sure that there is not some underlying reason behind it. Surely it couldn't hurt just to speak to a dr about what has been going on?
Wow Arte, what a horrific day. Poor little A, and poor you!
I agree with the others, you might be right it may just be a sleep issue but worth checking out incase his bad sleep is a symptom of something else. Something that can be helped. Just a suggestion, have you considered the possibilty of him being on the Autism spectrum? I just wondered with his high intelligence, and the stories you tell us it would seem like a possibility. I hope I'm not out of line by mentioning the possibility.
Arte, I hope it doesn't feel like we are ganging up on you - we're just really worried about you and how this is affecting all of you. We care about you so much and we feel pretty helpless, but some of the things he does is just starting to look like there is something bigger going on with him. I know you probably don't think that there is anything wrong - but please just think about it as an option. I think Ange is on the right track.
Hi girls....just popping on quickly...hugs to arte...sounds like the day from hell w the car...good thinkingonyour part feting her out! I hope you manage to get some sleep...
I also think there is no harm going to your gp...ihaveno idea about what they could do but you won't know if you don't ask... I am worried about you...all if you. I know my boys have even bad sleepers but nothing like your kids..and I dot bow how yup deal w that sort of behavior... If the gp gas any ideas thAt would be great wouldn't it? And if not...well all you have wasted is a little time...I bow my dh is adamant he can't go for 3 just dealing w the lack of sleep we have had...so I totally don't kbow how you guys are operating...and so anything at all that could help must be worth a shot. Xxx
I don't think he is on the spectrum. He is generally a nice, well behaved kid. It is just these random patches when he won't go to bed, won't stay asleep and acts silly during the day. His behaviour isn't anything outrageous (I don't think) for a 3.5 year old - sometimes throwing and kicking toys around, being loud, not doing as asked -do the other kids in here not do any of that??
The pee thing is clearly attention seeking behaviour. If he wants attention he is sure as hell going to get it if he does something filthy like that and he knows that I react for it.
His kindy teachers describe him as very sociable and chatty. He plays with the other kids every day and joins in on all the activities - even singing and dancing which he has always hated. Other mum's keep commenting on how much he has come out of his shell in the past 6 months since he started kindy. He just needed the confidence boost of knowing he could be without me and still be fine.
He is highly strung. Always has been. He is much better now at communicating what he wants rather than having a tantrum. We hardly ever have tantrums during the day now and we haven't had a mega long one for a long time.
I honestly think is main problem is the sleep. When he is sleeping alright he is good during the day. He is a very literal kid that does better with rules and order. I personally think that all this comforted sleeping BS has not been right for his personality - I would have been better off leaving him to CIO and learning to get to sleep on his own, then that would be how it is. Instead I mollycoddled him and now that is what he expects.
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