Finally booked DS to see his paediatrician

[Miss.B]

Well, today I finally worked up the courage to get my beautiful DS seen by his paediatrician in 2 weeks. For a while I have been concerned by his behaviour. So far everyone is telling me to stop worrying and being silly, he's developing normally. He has been on the late side with pretty much everything. He sat up all by himself at 9 months. He rolled both ways late too. He commando crawled until 14 months and is still not walking (only can pull himself up on furniture/bath but does not shift feet that much, rather he drags them). He can only say mama, yum, only started to say da, and makes the car noise. He is very interested in his hands. But the main concern I have is with his behaviour. I have posted before about his constant arm flapping, which I have always been worried about. He does is a lot, but mainly when he is excited, unhappy or just wants to be picked up. Yesterday he did this weird thing where he closed his eyes and started to cry like he was scared, and I had to really calm him down before he could open his eyes again. He did this again a little while later. There was nothing that I could see that made him upset, he didn't hurt himself etc. I was at mum's place and even she was concerned.

I feel so heartbroken that I am doubting how perfect he is. I just want the doctor to tell me everything is normal and on track. I don't want the doubts and worries to consume me. I really hope and pray that all is OK and he is developing normally.

Thanks.

[UntoldAngel]

I hope the paed can alleviate some of your concerns

[RhiChiChi]

Miss B, I hope the pead can shed some light on your sons behaviour and development. I was going to say don't stress too much about your DS development - my gf DD didn't walk until later, like 16 months and some other gf's kids wern't big speakers until later, however given the additional behavioural stuff and your mummy instincts telling you something is up, I think you have done the right thing getting a second opinion. GL

[~Trish~]

Huge hugs . Good on you for getting your DS checked out. The paed may say he's absolutely normal/fine, but you will worry about it until you find out for sure. It's much better getting him checked out JIC, if there is an issue, early intervention is the best thing you can do for him. Don't feel guilty for following your instincts

[JLeigh29]

I just wanted to send you lots of I can only imagine all the thoughts going though your mind right now. I agree that you've done the best thing possible to alleviate your fears because no matter how many times someone tells you not to worry or that there's a whole range of 'normal' when it comes to babies, you will (understandably) be concerned until you have some answers. It's what makes you a parent.

I truly hope that the paed can reassure you. GL with your own special tww!

[Miss.B]

Thank you so much for you support and words of encouragement ladies

I feel pretty good knowing that at least I'll have a professional have a look at DS and hopefully shed some light on why he is behaving the way he does......for all I know it could all be normal behaviour. It just doesn't feel good when you go to gymbaroo and some mum is staring at your child like 'what's wrong with him' iykwim? Anyway, perhaps I'm just over paranoid, I swear I've never worried so much before DS came along. I guess you want your child to be developing well and it's so easy to read into things even if others tell you it's all normal behaviour.

Will keep you updated.

Thanks again and thanks for listening

[Charlotte91]

I hope everything is OK.
I'll be stalking.

Good luck, honey.

[diannescruffy]

I use to get those "what's wrong with her" looks hun, Bella didn't walk until she was 2. It's great you are getting him checked, hopefully all will be well.

Regards,
Dianne

[Just Me]

I am going through the same thing you are with my DS1 and we have booked him in to see our GP for a referral as well.

I have been struggling with the 'not perfect' thing as well - but they are still who they are, regardless. Your DS is still your perfect baby, no matter what.

I hope you get some answers either way

[Snacks]

I feel so heartbroken that I am doubting how perfect he is.

Oh, babes! That makes me so sad. You are not doubting him, just doing the very best you can to make sure he is healthy and happy! He'll be your perfect little boy regardless of where his behaviour sits on the "normal" development scale.
I hope the appointment goes really well, that the paed takes time to hear what you are saying and most of all that everything is a-ok with your little boy's health.

[Miss.B]

Oh ladies, you're making me tear up (thanks snacks! lol), now see what you've done!!! haha. Thanks so much for your kind words, your hope, your encouragement, and your sharing your own stories (plus my very own stalker charlotte! lol, thanks hunni ) . I really really appreciate it, there is nothing quite like the supportive caring beautiful ladies of BB!

Just me, I hope all goes well in your app. as well sweets

Dianne, so good to hear from you hun, I missed you on belly! Hope all is well at your end lovely

[Cranky Kitten]

Big hon, it's tough having those doubts and I hope you get some answers soon.

[CeCe]

I was reading your OP and doing the mental tick thing. DS is 11 months. Will roll but only side to side, not onto his tummy, when we sit him up he flings himself back, won't put weight through his legs, flaps his hands alot and loves to study his and anyone elses hands. He's been sick (colds etc) for about two months which we think has impacted on his development but we're uncomfortable attributing everything to that.

I've found it really hard to bring this up with people due to the judgement factor, so thankyou for posting and allowing me to share.

We have a paed appointment later this month. I hope you don't have long to wait and worry.

[Miss.B]

Thanks Cranky Kitten!

CeCe, you are welcome hun I've just been feeling so stressed about it all I thought I'd post here as all the wonderful ladies are so supportive which means the world to me. I was speaking to one of my BF who I have been confiding in and she tells me over and over how similar her two kids were (especially with the arm/hand flapping) so that made me feel good. She also said she went to see her second cousin who is DS's age and she said he was all arms flapping away. Then my DF took my DS to the park today and said there was a 2 yo boy running around flapping away and DF asked the dad if he did that a lot and he said only when he's really excited. It still doesn't rule out a problem if there is one, but it made me feel better hun.
I hope your little one is all good when he sees his paed. Keep me posted hun

B xoxox

[RhiChiChi]

Thank you so much for you support and words of encouragement ladies

I feel pretty good knowing that at least I'll have a professional have a look at DS and hopefully shed some light on why he is behaving the way he does......for all I know it could all be normal behaviour. It just doesn't feel good when you go to gymbaroo and some mum is staring at your child like 'what's wrong with him' iykwim? Anyway, perhaps I'm just over paranoid, I swear I've never worried so much before DS came along. I guess you want your child to be developing well and it's so easy to read into things even if others tell you it's all normal behaviour.

Will keep you updated.

Thanks again and thanks for listening

Aww, the part about others looking at your DS & judging makes me feel sad.

Did you make an appt yet?

[Miss.B]

Hi hun,
I've got Cam booked in on Tuesday to see his paed, just got to get the referral on Monday. Thanks for asking hun, I'll let you know how he goes. We've got gymbaroo starting up again today so if that mum looks at him funny again I will personally slap her!
B xox

[Charlotte91]

Hey honey, is your appointment today??

Still thinking of you, keep us updated!

xox

[JLeigh29]

Me too - GL today.

Sending you lots of good vibes and