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ditch the dummy?
ok so DD has always been a excellent sleeper, has always "self settled", never had a issue when putting her down etc...
she has always had a dummy and her "puppy" comforter when she gets put to bed and at no other times....
the last few weeks things have changed, as they do when bubs get older
DD is now 7 months too....
she has realised you can take your dummy out and play with it, the problem being getting it back in and the right way, which she cant do which then equals her getting more tired and frustrated, resulting in her getting upset.
ive tried giving her a extra dummy in her hand so she doesnt take out the one in her mouth but it didnt work
i end up going in to her every 5 mins to put the dummy in till she goes to sleep, usually takes about 20 mins.
now i know its not for everyone BUT we find DD responds pretty well to a bit onf controlled crying, the more i go in the more worked up she gets so obviously letting her go a bit is better for us as she calms down a bit...
is it worth getting rid of the dummy now rather than later??
if so how do i do it??? cold turkey, gradually??
ta, crumpet xx
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Someone started a similar thread recently... let me see if I can find it...
ETA here tis: https://www.bellybelly.com.au/forums...please-166159/
The OP has an older bub but I posted in there about my experiences getting rid of DD's dummy when she was a similar age to your DD.
GL hun - prepare for some sleepless nights!!!
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awesome thanks ill have a look!!!
oh boy i dont know if ill survive waking up at night! actually i should probably have mentioned she has slept through since 6 weeks, and generally when she goes to bed at 7, i check on her when i go to bed at 930ish she hasnt got her dummy its out and she isnt fazed??
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So when are the wake ups happening? When does she grizzle for it??
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wake ups are happening only at night in the 3hrs after she is put down, so between 7 and 10pm...
during the day when she does down for a nap, she fights her sleep a little bit but plays with the dummy most then and we have more trouble putting her down in the day than at night... it can take a good half an hour for her to get to sleep in the day
she doesnt fight it at night, just wakes up in that 3hr space....
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Crumpet i hate dummies, i hate evrything about them. I hate that there are kids that dont have any photos without the thing in their mouth, i hate that there are kids that are walking around with them in their mouth and i HATE that there are kids that learn to talk around them in their mouth. I think that they are dirty over used.... I DOUBLE hate them because people force their babies to learn to love something and then take it away or blame someone else for taking it away (ie santa, new baby, dummy fairy) I think thats just FERRAL and MEAN!!
I think that S is such a great baby for you Crumpet and that she would like you said learn to self settle super quick for you. Id ditch it now
Before you jump down my throat.....I have only ranted because i could that crumpet wouldnt expect anything less from me
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Will you marry me?Crumpet i hate dummies, i hate evrything about them. I hate that there are kids that dont have any photos without the thing in their mouth, i hate that there are kids that are walking around with them in their mouth and i HATE that there are kids that learn to talk around them in their mouth. I think that they are dirty over used.... I DOUBLE hate them because people force their babies to learn to love something and then take it away or blame someone else for taking it away (ie santa, new baby, dummy fairy) I think thats just FERRAL and MEAN!!
I think that S is such a great baby for you Crumpet and that she would like you said learn to self settle super quick for you. Id ditch it now
Before you jump down my throat.....I have only ranted because i could that crumpet wouldnt expect anything less from me
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Sounds like you just need to ditch it crumpet. If she's not using it from 10ish pm onwards, and sleeps right through, dude, you are on a good thing. She doesn't need it.
Give it the flick.
Do what I did - go cold turkey. Throw them all out (even the ones that have fallen down behind the cot/change table/couch) and just suck it up for a few nights and you'll be fine again.
I do hate the photos of DD that I see with her dummy in...
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We had the same thing at around 6 months (without the sleeping through part!). I ditched them, cold turkey. First night getting him to sleep was a bit hard, but no more than usual. After that he didn't miss it.
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I agreed with you until our last baby had some surgeries that were so painful and meant he had to be doped up on morphine..and in that situation, a dummy is a lifesaver let me tell you!! So I do think dummies have a place.
I'd try and wean now, I think 7 months is a great age to take it away. We did it with our first baby and it really onlt took a couple of nights. GL!!
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We just got rid of the dummy at 2 years, he hasn't even missed itdo it when you feel ready!
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If it only takes her 20 mins to settle and she sleeps all night, i don't think you have that much to be concerned about.
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You got me there Lee....as I use to work in a NICU i probably should have remembered this! TOTAL and utter LIFESAVER for the little ones and the nurses......BUT TOTALLY out of the norm of everyday life......
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we just ditched it for DS hes just over 2 and DD wont take one at all and i was excited when i took him to the park first time without it and took some awesome pics of him
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thank you all for ur replies!!!
Crumpet i hate dummies, i hate evrything about them. I hate that there are kids that dont have any photos without the thing in their mouth, i hate that there are kids that are walking around with them in their mouth and i HATE that there are kids that learn to talk around them in their mouth. I think that they are dirty over used.... I DOUBLE hate them because people force their babies to learn to love something and then take it away or blame someone else for taking it away (ie santa, new baby, dummy fairy) I think thats just FERRAL and MEAN!!
I think that S is such a great baby for you Crumpet and that she would like you said learn to self settle super quick for you. Id ditch it now
Before you jump down my throat.....I have only ranted because i could that crumpet wouldnt expect anything less from meof course id expect nothing less from you!!!!!
its only a get to sleep thing i think...
If it only takes her 20 mins to settle and she sleeps all night, i don't think you have that much to be concerned about.no im lucky i dont to worry about the sleeping through thats for sure!
thats what worried me! i didnt want her to be walking and still wanting it...
WELL we made the move and didnt give DD her dummy at "suicide hour" as DH calls it...
and she whinged the same amount as she would with the dummy so that proved she didnt need it at that time of the day...
i put her to bed at 7pm no dummy, tucked her in, gave her her comforter and put her sleep sheep on and she hasnt made a sound!!but
i dont wanna jinx us!!!
surely it cant be that easy???
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crumpet, I know cc isn't for everyone, but DS was fine with it, and when we ditched the dummy, it took less than 48 hours for him to stop even looking for it.
if it had been too hard for him, or if he had been too upset, we would have tried again another time, but he was using it only for car trips and bedtime, and occasionally right after a feed (for reasons unknown to me, it helped him burp without voming when he was a little tyke) but when it was just the car and night sleep, we ditched it. He was fine after about 10 mins the first night and 5 mins the second night, and he wanted it in the car the first few times, but all up, less than 48hrs and he was good as gold
hope it's nice and simple for your DD too!
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we are cool with controlled crying so that doesnt faze me! hard a$$ mummy i am!crumpet, I know cc isn't for everyone, but DS was fine with it, and when we ditched the dummy, it took less than 48 hours for him to stop even looking for it.
if it had been too hard for him, or if he had been too upset, we would have tried again another time, but he was using it only for car trips and bedtime, and occasionally right after a feed (for reasons unknown to me, it helped him burp without voming when he was a little tyke) but when it was just the car and night sleep, we ditched it. He was fine after about 10 mins the first night and 5 mins the second night, and he wanted it in the car the first few times, but all up, less than 48hrs and he was good as gold
hope it's nice and simple for your DD too!
sounds like u got out of it super easy as well!!
so far so good here, heres hoping it keeps up!
oh and i hadnt got round to pm-ing you so CONGRATS on the new nut joining the crew!
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thanks my dear!!!
and I hope it's just as easy for you and your DD.
I know that things don't always go smoothly, but gee it's nice when they do
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