I feel so guilty, am I alone?

[PumpkinZulu]

I'm just wrecked today. My back is starting to play up with this pregnancy, I dropped a piece of the bed on my finger last night and it might be fractured, I'm just feeling blergh. So, DD and I are sitting in front of the telly, have been all morning I feel so guilty, tell me it's okay to let her slob in front of the tv with me? I feel lazy but I just don't feel up to playing, cleaning etc. I've given her a naughty brekky too (jam on toast, lots of jam lol!). I can kind of see these sorts of days increasing as I get more pregnant which makes me feel a little bad too. I'm not alone, right?

[TeniBear]

No! That's like, every day for me unless I've got something I'm absolutely supposed to be doing! Or if I've got an opportunity to go out shopping No jam on toast, though, because I don't like jam and my food choices influence everything we eat in this house

Of course, if you did it everyday like me, then you might have something to be guilty about


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[RockingBaker]

Hell to the no PZ! Ligaments in my back are going which means I can't carry the kids as much and need frequent breaks. This morning I made omelettes with the kids but while they're cooking I've shoved them in front of the tv to make it easier on me. Just do more stories, more cuddles, colouring in and puzzles (when she's ready obviously).

[Jaycee]

You don't have anything to feel guilty about, sometimes you gotta do what you gotta do.

And I don't see jam on toast as being a naughty brekkie either. at least it wasn't fruit loops!

[Tinks]

Nothing wrong with it at all. We all have days like that.

I didn't know jam on toast was a naughty breakfast. No wonder I'm obese

[PumpkinZulu]

thanks guys. RB my back is like that too. DD doesn't walk, she does crawl but her teeth are hurting her so she wants carrying when we swap rooms, I can't hold her as long as I used to. DD is loving the tv which makes me feel worse

ETA its American jam, jelly. I shop at USA foods It tastes like jam in hot jam doughnuts.

[*LittleMissSummer*]

If thats bad i should be shot! I have spent most days like that. Especially lately. I am just fatigued that even if i play or do housework i need to rest every 15 mins. We have a 2-3 hour nap together almost everyday.

I've been feeling guilty at how much we spend inside

[purplepixie1978]

Lord, no. DD never ever watched TV until very recently. I sit with her while she watches and do songs etc with her (Play School etc) - I figure at least she is still getting time and interaction with me and I'm not having to chase her around. DD is 19 months old and she walks, but she frequently wants "upsie" as she hasn't been well lately and it's killing my back. Some times a Mummy's gotta do what a Mummy's gotta do. Don't feel bad - I always swore my children would NEVER watch TV, but like all parenting things, you never know what you will do til you're in the situation, do you?

[TeniBear]

At least you have an excuse. I'm just lazy


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[TaRhLi.]

Hell no, I'm really bad and have ABC Kids on all day. My kids don't sit and watch TV all day but it is one in the background and on days like today when DD is tired (she won't have a day sleep anymore) she will happily rest and watch TV, and to be honest her conversation and vocabulary has increased sinced she has started watching TV and shows like playschool, sesame street etc to me are educational in helping to develop gross motor skills and language skills.

And Jam on toast for breaky would be fine - although we don't have it as my kids won't eat overly sweet things - but most mornings after my kids have a bottle of milk they will get a milk arrowroot biscuit to keep them happy until I can sort out breakfast for them all

Just do what you need to to get through the day.

[Muppity]

Uh oh - is jam on toast bad

The occasional day like that is the only thing that gets m through

[mrscricket]

Don't feel guilty at all. My DS starts school next year and I am just starting to realise that I wish we had more days just snuggled at home, doing nothing but eating jam toast. Treasure days like this, don't feel guilty about it all!

[sloane]

dont worry about feeling guilty, enjoy the time you're spending with your dd it might not be ehat you consider ideal, but we all have days like that (& for me it's continued with a new baby while we get through the early weeks of feeding, feeding, feeding!) but what's really important is that you're balancing your needs & you're still loving her as much as ever.

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[Gigi]

at Isla's age, does she like a basket of pegs? or putting magnets on the fridge? making piles of flannels/facewashers? these three inane activities, captivated bilby for so long (at same age) and required nothing from me (energy).

and another important common denominator, they are not noisy activities (when mummy has a headache e.g has had not significant sleep lately). i decided to ban battery operated (e.g noisy) toys from our home, for my own sanity. (bilby didn't sleep more than two hours at a time, 24/7 at the time.

i think every parent has times when you just do, what you gotta do, to get thru. Especially when you have two kids close together i would think. I am in awe of women who are pregnant AND have a toddler to care for, simultaneously - that sounds a full on gig to me, so i'm in admiration of you PZ. respekt.