What do you think about surprise weddings?

**mzjen** · May 5th, 2013, 04:04 PM

So a little about myself i like to be different and have been thinkin about a surprise weddings but i dnt no if its weird or not. I really would like to hear what u ladies think about it?

**<3 Mumofthreetobe <3** · May 5th, 2013, 04:30 PM

I know someone who went to a surprise wedding today. I think it would be really exciting. The only problem would be if people couldn't make the celebration you disguise it as (eg an engagement party), they'd miss out on such a special event in your life.

**Amity** · May 5th, 2013, 04:31 PM

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**mzjen** · May 5th, 2013, 04:34 PM

yea i know what you mean, the thing is there is not too many ppl we would invite anyways. i wanna do it more for him and i just to make our family whole, i really hope that makes sense lol. and because i LOVE him so very much

**Mummy&Daddy2Be** · May 5th, 2013, 04:45 PM

well at the end of the day the decision is up to you both & it's your special day so you do whatever you want that makes you both happy

. i personally don't really like the idea of surprise weddings. like Nel above said you will get people who won't show, but if they knew it was a wedding & lets say they "felt sick" they would make that extra effort to come because it's your wedding, not just a party IYKWIM. also you could get people coming in very casual clothes, that might not bother you, but it would bother me. there's more reasons but i just can't think for now.

all the best in whatever you decide to do

**mzjen** · May 5th, 2013, 04:59 PM

ok i was meaning for a surprise for my partner LOL. i should have said that so the ppl that will be coming will know what is going on bar my partner

**Mummy&Daddy2Be** · May 5th, 2013, 05:05 PM

ohhhhh LOL. so sorry! i totally misunderstood. i have never heard of that. wow that would be different haha! what would be the "occasion" that you would tell him? how would you get him to rock up in a suit? what about his groomsmen? lots of things to think about. keep us updated

**Joeve** · May 5th, 2013, 05:11 PM

That would be great as long as you are certain he wants to get married! I think my DH would have freaked out if I had done that but you know your partner the best to know if he would be happy!
Are you engaged already? If you are then yep could work. If youre not maybe you could propose to him!
Goodluck and keep us posted!

**Phteven** · May 5th, 2013, 05:30 PM

Um....... no way!!
Surprising someone with a lifetime commitment is not cool.
And you need to give a month's notice anyway so it's not really possible.

**AnyDream** · May 5th, 2013, 05:39 PM

Hate to be the party pooper here, but you have to lodge an intention to marriage document at least 1 month before the wedding. Which needs to be signed by both parties, or the wedding is not legal.

Best to save surprises for events that are not morally and legally binding.

**Sopdet** · May 5th, 2013, 05:54 PM

Considering both of you have to do the paperwork at least a month before your wedding day, I think he would have to know that it is going to happen.

**mzjen** · May 5th, 2013, 06:04 PM

AWW that just stuffed things up for me then lol. i new i had to give a month notice and i was gonna do it cause he's away on work at the moment and was gonna book a few days away for us and pack the suit and tell him the day we got married. so i just flushed my ideas down the loo lol. thanks ladies

**2CheekyMonkeys** · May 5th, 2013, 06:11 PM

Why don't you propose to him instead.

**AnyDream** · May 5th, 2013, 06:12 PM

My pleasure.

Prolly better to know now before you went to all that effort...

**lady_neon** · May 5th, 2013, 06:13 PM

Yeah, a surprise for guests is different to surprising the future spouse. Wouldn't he want a say? Strange IMO.

**mzjen** · May 5th, 2013, 06:24 PM

we are engaged already and yeah he has a say and he wants to get married we were gonna do it about 10 months ago but he had to go away up north for work so we put it off and now his gone for another month i thought it would be nice once he gets back to do it (what he does want). but i guess he will know then i have everything ready just no date and place. So we just gotta wait for him to come home to set the date and place.

**2CheekyMonkeys** · May 5th, 2013, 06:26 PM

You could fill out the paperwork with him and set the date and then keep him in the dark about when, where, how, theme and make it a surprise location. Sorta like that wedding show Kate Ritchie hosted about the groom being in total control of it all.

**~*Niadalla*~** · May 5th, 2013, 06:31 PM

I had a surprise wedding at my engagement party. IMO an engagement party is just as special as a wedding. I also knew that anyone ho truly loved us would make the effort to attend (bar illness preventing them), whether it be a wedding or a friendly BBQ for no particular reason.
As others have pointed out, surprising the groom wouldn't be possible. Good luck with whatever you do though.