What do you think about surprise weddings?

[mzjen]

yea i know what you mean, the thing is there is not too many ppl we would invite anyways. i wanna do it more for him and i just to make our family whole, i really hope that makes sense lol. and because i LOVE him so very much

[Mummy&Daddy2Be]

well at the end of the day the decision is up to you both & it's your special day so you do whatever you want that makes you both happy . i personally don't really like the idea of surprise weddings. like Nel above said you will get people who won't show, but if they knew it was a wedding & lets say they "felt sick" they would make that extra effort to come because it's your wedding, not just a party IYKWIM. also you could get people coming in very casual clothes, that might not bother you, but it would bother me. there's more reasons but i just can't think for now.

all the best in whatever you decide to do

[mzjen]

ok i was meaning for a surprise for my partner LOL. i should have said that so the ppl that will be coming will know what is going on bar my partner

[Mummy&Daddy2Be]

ohhhhh LOL. so sorry! i totally misunderstood. i have never heard of that. wow that would be different haha! what would be the "occasion" that you would tell him? how would you get him to rock up in a suit? what about his groomsmen? lots of things to think about. keep us updated

[Sopdet]

Considering both of you have to do the paperwork at least a month before your wedding day, I think he would have to know that it is going to happen.

[mzjen]

AWW that just stuffed things up for me then lol. i new i had to give a month notice and i was gonna do it cause he's away on work at the moment and was gonna book a few days away for us and pack the suit and tell him the day we got married. so i just flushed my ideas down the loo lol. thanks ladies

[lady_neon]

Yeah, a surprise for guests is different to surprising the future spouse. Wouldn't he want a say? Strange IMO.