this is ridiculous!!!

[Marley&Me]

I fed dd at 4:30am. I am STILL trying to settle her at 6:30! How much more can I take. Why won't she just settle!? She's not kicking her legs up she just grizzles non stop! Why?

[Babyluv]

It sounds very normal to me. She will get there and you're doing a great job. When you feed her through the night are you getting her up, changing nappies, lights on etc?
I've always tried to do night feeds with as minimal fuss and I think it has helped.

[Arimeh]

Feed her again? I dunno. I found when I stopped "trying" to settle them and just accepted that they were awake that's when they usually fell asleep lol

[PumpkinZulu]

Sing to her? Stand upright and bounce her? Try offering the breast again, or a dummy, maybe laying her on your tummy and patting her back? What are you doing to try and settle her? Could your DH take her and gently rock her or bounce her for a bit? She's still learning day from night, and will be for quite some time hun. Totally normal

[MLR1901]

Sometimes gas, or over tired.
Check out dunstan baby cries it describes the sound of babies cry to help pin point what's wrong. Helped me!!

[Marley&Me]

I am feeding her and burping then wrapping her . She starts crying when I wrap. Then I rock her, pat her bum, sway with her till shes nodding off. Then I put her down and she will look like she is asleep, but when I walk out after a few minutes she is awake and crying again I try to ignore the protest cries but they always eventuate to full blown crying

[bubno.3]

I would suggest as she is 2 weeks old she may need more milk or just be close to you ....so at that time i would take her and lye in bed and she will fall asleep.... trust me i have done this with all three of my kids when they were bubs and it works ...

How much sleep are you getting per day ?

[bubno.3]

I am feeding her and burping then wrapping her . She starts crying when I wrap. Then I rock her, pat her bum, sway with her till shes nodding off. Then I put her down and she will look like she is asleep, but when I walk out after a few minutes she is awake and crying again I try to ignore the protest cries but they always eventuate to full blown crying

yep sounds like she wants mum mum smells mums cuddles etc etc as i said in other post ...just pick her up and take her into your bed so at least you can lye down get the pillows safe around her and you and nod off your self and she will do the same ....

[Artechim]

Have you got a sling? All those posts of people marvelling about their slings are for this very reason She is fresh out of the oven and has spent her her life right next to your heart beat - it is natural for her to want that security now she is out in the big wide world. That said I really, really do understand that you want to put her down and have some time as a singular person without a baby constantly attached, and that there is stuff you need to get done. The sling is a reasonable compromise as she is happy and snuggly but leaves your arms free for what ever you need to do.

[Beatrix]

Hun she hasn't read the Bo that says she is meant to do all these things you expect.

Feeding 2-3hrly is perfectly normal. Her tummy is the size of her fist so doesn't take long to digest it.

As for being held constantly, why wouldn't she want to be? You are her safe haven. She was snug and warm and safe inside you for 9 months and now she is expected to be ok with being left alone? I read some where that a baby needs a 4th trimester but the body can not handle being pg for that long so it should be done on the outside. Being held and carried and soothed for the first 3 months of her life is normal. My dd is almost 4 months old and I hate to say it but she will only sleep on me or in our bed... Yes it is driving me insane but she's only this little once I keep telling myself. We haven't got a period longer then 5hrs at night yet either. Last night she feed 3hrly ( more often its only 1-2 wake ups a night)

[BOC]

Does she always cry when you wrap her? Could there be a chance she doesn't like being wrapped? It's not common but some babies hate being restricted. My DS was one of those. Other than that a sling or carrier might be a great idea to try.

Hope you get some rest soon x

[~me~]

Other than the suggestions above, how about considering getting her checked out by a Kiddy Chiropractor or Osteo?
What sort of birth did you have, did she come out of her own or was she assisted out with suction and forcesp? Sometimes it can be as simple as one of their little bones is out.
I have heard and seen wonders what Chiro's and Osteo's can do for an unsettled baby, it may not be a miracle cure, something to consider.

[Arcadia]

Both mine did this. It's like they had had heaps of sleep and needed more comfort to drop off or in the case of ds he wanted to be up. At least at this up 'up' is only for an hour or so. I used to get up and watch tv until he was tired again, then rewrap more boob and he'd nod off. Then I would catch an hour before dd woke up.

Babies are very sleepy when they're born and they become less and less sleepy. I used to settle for about 20mins then get them up. 2 hours of settling is a recipe for frustration.

Just remember there are thousands of mothers all over the world getting up at odd times with an unsettled baby. You're not alone.

[Marley&Me]

She had a normal vaginal birth, no problems. I just fed her from one side and she was out cold. Tried to offer the other side, but she wouldn't wake. So I saw this ad an opportunity and put her down. She didn't even wake. But I worry she didn't get enough milk....

[~me~]

That's great Tasha. That's very normal. Feeding to sleep is Ok, one side is usally enough for most newborns.
It can take a while to establish your and her own routine. Do what works for you. There is no right or wrong way

[BlackCat]

One of our girls only fed from one side constantly. No matter how many times the other was offered she flat out refused to take it. Our eldest, though he took both sides, only fed from one side at a go, he never took one side and then the other. So it is possible that she has had enough from your one side to sustain her, which is probably why she fell asleep also.

[briggsy's girl]

I only ever fed DD from one side at a time - she was full from that - supply was ample and if i tried to force the second boob cos it's what i "should" do, i would wake and frustrate her and be a recipe for disaster. sometimes you have to trust that she is doing what she needs to. as long as you remember to swap sides next feed for your own comfort, it will work out. i know it's not what the books say, but you have to do what works for you and your DD - books are a guide, not an absolute!

Do you have DD in your room? my DD wouldn't settle properly in a room by herself - she needed the comfort of us. the smells etc from us. we had a room set up for her but moved her cot in with us after bassinet stage so that we could all sleep. we have low music playing all the time (have had for years so that i can sleep through DH's snoring!) - it seems DD was similar and needed the noise as well. she could sleep through the noise of grand final day with the boys when she was on me, but move into a quiet room and she woke.

As has been mentioned, your poppet is just learning what it's like to be on the outside. Day and night don't mean much to her at all. there is wake time and sleep time. she still needs to be near you a lot of the time to feel safe. it's an instinctual thing. when you are feeling uncertain you reach out to your strength (partner/friends/parents) - she is doing the same - but you're the only strength and safety she knows!

maybe do a bit of reading about safe cosleeping, and in the wee hours of the morning, take yourself off to bed with DD instead of stressing about getting her settled. she may just want to be in with mummy, the same as she was for the nine months before she came out...

Being a new mum isn't easy. No doubt being a new born is damn hard too. you need to work together to find your groove, rather than working at odds to each other. unfortunately for you, she doesn't understand compromise, so it's up to you to compromise on what you think should be happening, and just embrace what is and work out how to work with her needs. it takes a bit, and it can be horrendously exhausting (not to mention damn scary letting go of your own beliefs in what should be happening, and just going with the flow), but in the long run, if you find something that works for the two of you, you'll both be happier

[PumpkinZulu]

DD2 only feeds from one side at a time Tasha...she's 7.5 months old and 10.1kg, so she definitely gets enough You're doing fine.