My first we kept it a surprise and this time I wanted to but finding myself contemplating finding out... Tomorrow!! I have to have a c/s so knowing date after my appointment today I kind of feel that keeping something a surprise will be nice.
So if you found out, were you happy that you did or prefer to keep it a surprise?
I found out with both of mine. I love it because I like to be extra prepared lol. We choose a name and make a painted name decoration for their nursery wall, buy clothes and stuff (because I get sick of the white/grey/beige) and I feel like DH and I really bond with baby and identify a bit with who this little person is.
The hardest thing for me is I don't like others to know, I like the sex to be part of the announcement when baby is born and it's so hard not to slip up!
I'm a huge fan of finding out The first time we shared but the last we kept it a secret from everyone else, I'll admit that was extremely hard!
My reasons were that I hate surprises, I didn't want to think it was one or the other and have anything take away from the happy occasion, I like to be organised, it helps me bond knowing if I have a son or a daughter...think that was it.
I love the idea of a surprise, the old fashioned romance of waiting but I don't know if I cannot NOT know! We found out with DD but kept it a secret from family and friends. I loved knowing- there aren't many gender neutral clothes and things out there so it was fun buying tiny dresses etc. This time i am tempted to wait but i hate the idea of the sonographer knowing and not me! It's my baby in my body and I love knowing as much as I can.
We found out for DD1, surprise for DD2 (and was convinced she was a boy). Much prefer the surprise. I got DH to tell me what we had, the midwife and the ob were prepared and knew to say nothing. It really was wonderful that way.
We found out for both DS's but told everyone for DS1 but told no one for DS2.
For Baby 3 I'm really desparate to know what the gender is but at the same time I want the whole... "it's a.....!" at the birth. At the moment the most common comment I'm getting from anyone who I tell about the pregnancy is "I hope it's a girl... " and that's kinda sorta REALLY annoying me.. so part of me wants to find out so I can tell people to shut them up. *gggrrrrr*
So, for the moment I'm going for the surprise... but that could change closer to the Morph scan.. we shall see..
I had DP announce it both times - it was his most important job as part of the birth team I wanted to hear the special news from someone who was part of our lives not from a sonographer who I had never met before.
I hate suprises and with both DD's I found out. Then with my 3rd I just did not want to know. I loved not knowing and now if I was to have more babies I wont be finding out anymore.
Such a personal choice but if your last was a suprise then you could always find out this time so you have experienced both.
I'm a need to know gal too. I like to be organised with clothes, and I also wanted time to 'get used' to having either a boy or a girl. I definitely think it helps with the bonding too - Bub has a name, and we can picture him as part of our family. Not sure I'd have coped well with lots of surprises at birth the first time around - everything was so new and foreign anyway! A slow reveal worked well. It won't be such a shock to the system this time around, I hope, but I'm still glad I know
2X suppries here.
current belly bub DH knows the sex but i dont. he wanted to know "just because he'd done the supprise thing twice" lol. i like to know at the end of the preg i get a "push present" as such; besides a baby lol.
i had 2 surprises, but was really tempted this time to find out. Had the ultrasound and decided that i could hold on to find out. I might need the extra motivation (to find out the sex of my little one) towards the end of the pregnancy more than i do now.
Our first was a surprise and our second will be as well. It has been tempting to find out this time around, especially as we had a CVS test at 12 weeks so could have known 100% since way back then! It's also strange going to my midwife appointments knowing the gender is right there in my notes... but we've stayed strong and will have another surprise
It was so incredibly special for me when DH looked me in the eye and told me:
1st: "It's a girl! We have a beautiful princess" with teary eyes.
2nd: "OMG it's a boy!! We have a gorgeous boy" once again with teary eyes.
3rd: "We have another precious boy. He is another perfect boy" with a kiss and a tear.
I will never forget those 3 moments. It was the most amazing way to find out what our kids were.
Also by not knowing DH went shopping as soon as possible after bubby was born and bought our baby their first gender specific outfit. I still have these outfits for each of the kids. Doesn't sound like much but DH hates shopping but he loved going and picking their first outfit which became their going home outfit. Once again incredibly special moments.
These moments outweighed being able to paint a room or have gender specific clothes for me.
We tried to find out with DD1 but they were only 80% sure because DD was straddling the umbilical cord. I have a need to be organized so I put did a girl layby and a boy layby of clothes and then dh picked up the correct one the day after she was born.
With dd2 we found out. We were moving house and I didn't want to move all the stuff is kept if I wasn't having a girl.
We didn't tell anyone (except my bestie and a friend from here) what we were having. We also didn't tell anyone when we were booked for our c sect.
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To find out boy/girl or keep it a surprise?
The first time we shared but the last we kept it a secret from everyone else, I'll admit that was extremely hard!
I like to be organised with clothes, and I also wanted time to 'get used' to having either a boy or a girl. I definitely think it helps with the bonding too - Bub has a name, and we can picture him as part of our family. Not sure I'd have coped well with lots of surprises at birth the first time around - everything was so new and foreign anyway! A slow reveal worked well. It won't be such a shock to the system this time around, I hope, but I'm still glad I know
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