But I have to say, I think 9 seems really young for this sort of stuff?? I understand you are concerned that she is becoming self conscious and that must be hard.
I definitely will not be letting DD dye/colour her hair at 9. No way. There is plenty of time for that later on. I think little girls grow up waaaaay too fast these days and the things I have control over, like dying her hair, I will be delaying as long as possible. JMHO
I think I was about 12 when I started shaving my legs. I wish I'd waited in hindsight and will be encouraging DD to do the same.
Last edited by Willow; April 3rd, 2010 at 07:19 PM.
My friends DD just started shaving her legs at 9. The friend didn't know & if she had she wouldn't have let her just yet, but she's decided at her DD's age, she needs to pick her battles & this is one she'll leave alone.
Her DD did have quite dark hairy legs & she was getting self conciouse about them, as well as having other girls mention it.
I, personally won't be letting DD1 til she's older. High school probably. She'll be 11 then. Same age I was. She is blonde though. DD2 might be different, as she's darker.
The hair thing I think I'd wait. Mum permed my hair at 12, it was dyed the first time when I was 16. I let them put hair spray etc in, & might let them rinse in high school, but I don't think I'd let them dye til they are about 16 either.
9 is definitely too young IMO. There is a girl amongst DD's peers who does this and she has had her hair dyed unfortunately it hasn't been well received by the children, parents or teachers. I personally think it's way too young, and DD won't be doing any of that till she's left primary school at least IMO. If the hair is embarressing I can understand but dying hair is completely unnecessary. They are only children for such a short time.
I was 13 before we were allowed to get out ear pierced or shave our legs, and weren't allowed to gye our hair until we were 15 and even then, it had tp be done properly at the hairdressers and mum had to approve.
9 IMO is too young to dye one's hair.
With the legs, I would wax them if they were very dark and causing her greif. You could perhaps look at a silky mit - it may work for fine hair. I would be hesitant about using chemicals like Veet on her skin though.
I had very dark hair on my legs by the time i was 11 and it wasn't fun, I think my mum gave in and let me shave at 12. In the long run though, it didn't hurt me - hair is there, it is natural, it is human and she will live
But Charlotte won't be dyeing hair, shaving legs or piercing ears until she is 12
Last edited by LimeSlice; April 3rd, 2010 at 08:07 PM.
I'm a beauty Therapist, my DD is 8. I've told her she can remove hair from her legs when she is old enough to handle the pain of waxing. To give her a slight idea, once when i was waxing my eye brows i put a tiny blob of hard wax on her leg the size of a pin head and told her to rip it off. It took one hair out and she carried on like a pork chop. Being that she is quite the little sook when it comes to pain, she wont be waxing legs for a long time. She's never seen me shave legs and probably wouldn't know its an option!
As for the hair thing, I won't even make a desicion like that until she's a teen, and when she is, then i'll make a desicion. I'd think around 14/15 would be the earliest.
Being that I am a beauty therapst and she sees waxing, tinting lash perming etc all the time, I'm very aware about her thinking she can be some beauty teen princess having all thses things done at some crazy early age. If anything, i'll make her wait even longer just to make a point!
I think 9 is WAY too young to even consider the hair thing...that do they have to look forward to when they are in their teens? Plus, I know a girl who had hair extentions at 10 (Seriouslly) and I was just mortified.
wow... 9 years old... for me it would be a NO WAY kind of thing....
i did what i wanted to my hair around 13 or 14..... can't remember about shaving though... but certainly not 9.... i suppose for me it was around 12, when puberty started (what a fun time!!) - so yeah, for my daughter i would assume the same.... i would be pretty sad if she was aware of body hair etc at age 9, but i have noticed she does have quite a fine hairy line down her back (i am very hair-less) so maybe this sort of thing will bother her earlier....
i don't think i'd let her dye her hair until she could come up with some money to fund the continual trips to the hairdresser.... but age 9 - i am gob smacked.... i've started her at ballet dancing for 3-4 year olds but i am now having a semi heart attack over what this might lead to in 5 years time!!
Is she upset by her hairy legs? If it is upsetting her then yes i would do it. I didn't get to do mine til I was 13 and had been upset by it for awhile before that as I was unfortunate enough to get quite dark hairs early.
As for the foils I would wait. 9 is quite young for that.
I might hold off on the hair foils a lil longer, as the hairy leg issue is a bit more important to her right now.
Hmm, interesting that most of the replies say to wax? Maybe i should look at doing that instead, my sister is a beauty theapist, so i know she will feel a lil bit more comfortable, but im in my 30s and waxing still hurts me, i guess i might have to sit back down with her and ask if she wants to try it?
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