I'm a beauty Therapist, my DD is 8. I've told her she can remove hair from her legs when she is old enough to handle the pain of waxing. To give her a slight idea, once when i was waxing my eye brows i put a tiny blob of hard wax on her leg the size of a pin head and told her to rip it off. It took one hair out and she carried on like a pork chop. Being that she is quite the little sook when it comes to pain, she wont be waxing legs for a long time. She's never seen me shave legs and probably wouldn't know its an option!
As for the hair thing, I won't even make a desicion like that until she's a teen, and when she is, then i'll make a desicion. I'd think around 14/15 would be the earliest.
Being that I am a beauty therapst and she sees waxing, tinting lash perming etc all the time, I'm very aware about her thinking she can be some beauty teen princess having all thses things done at some crazy early age. If anything, i'll make her wait even longer just to make a point!
I think 9 is WAY too young to even consider the hair thing...that do they have to look forward to when they are in their teens? Plus, I know a girl who had hair extentions at 10 (Seriouslly) and I was just mortified.
wow... 9 years old... for me it would be a NO WAY kind of thing....
i did what i wanted to my hair around 13 or 14..... can't remember about shaving though... but certainly not 9.... i suppose for me it was around 12, when puberty started (what a fun time!!) - so yeah, for my daughter i would assume the same.... i would be pretty sad if she was aware of body hair etc at age 9, but i have noticed she does have quite a fine hairy line down her back (i am very hair-less) so maybe this sort of thing will bother her earlier....
i don't think i'd let her dye her hair until she could come up with some money to fund the continual trips to the hairdresser.... but age 9 - i am gob smacked.... i've started her at ballet dancing for 3-4 year olds but i am now having a semi heart attack over what this might lead to in 5 years time!!
Is she upset by her hairy legs? If it is upsetting her then yes i would do it. I didn't get to do mine til I was 13 and had been upset by it for awhile before that as I was unfortunate enough to get quite dark hairs early.
As for the foils I would wait. 9 is quite young for that.
I also think it seems really young. Having said that I don't have very dark hair on my legs and I can see how that might get picked on by other girls. Having said that I would want to encourage my DD (thankfully I don't have one he he) to choose better friends than that - easier said than done I bet! Agree on foils and hair damage and wouldn't go there
yes shellbell, she is very upset by the hair on her legs, it is very dark and very hairy, 2 yrs ago, a not so nice girl made a comment that the hairs on her arms were too dark, so my dd attempted to shave them with a razer, it resulted in her cutting her arm a lil bit.
We have had many a night asking to remove the hair, hence why i droped the age from 15 to 12, and now am considering 9!
My hubbys estranged father is hungarian, so i think thats where the dark hair comes from?
i will definatly leave the hair foils till she is much older.
I would do it then if its upsetting her then, I remember well the teasing from school. I know its young but I'd prefer to do it if she is unhappy by it.
All three of my girls have started shaving their legs at 11 1/2 and were able to experience having a few foils put in. I believe in choosing battles and shaving legs is definately not one of them.
DD1 (although only 4) is also very dark and hairy so this is something that I do think will be an issue for us going forward as well. I shaved my own legs when I was about 11 and regret it so I would definitely be talking to her earlier on and discussing waxing etc to remove the hair if it is upsetting her.
The hair would be a different issue though and I do think 9 is too young. I was allowed to dye my own hair when I could pay for it - so at 14 when I got an after school job, I took myself off to the hairdresser
It's always difficult Anila & I think it's wonderful that you are seeking out some help to form your opinion...
Personally 9 to dye her hair is absolutely a no go zone! I believe that we shorten childhood too much now days... She has the rest of her life to dye her hair & let her look forward to doing that.
I also think 9 is too young to shave/wax. However, I am blonde with hardly any hair so I cannot know how it would feel for her. I would try & stretch it out a little longer. I also would perhaps try a different tack? That we humans grow hair & it's normal to have some - that when you reach puberty it can get thicker & then as a young Woman she can decide if she feels comfortable with her hair or not. Then there are methods of removal - waxing is by far superior to shaving... (I have never shaved always waxed)...
It's difficult if she is conscious of how much hair she has but perhaps trying to help her see that we are all different & she is beautiful with or without hair? Good luck
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