I finally finished a beautiful photo frame of Emmanuel with his hand prints and foot prints and put one photo of him nicely dressed. My SIL came over this morning and when she saw his photo she says to me "aren't you embarassed that people will see his deformities". What the heck, how heartless. I replied by saying that Emmanuel is perfect to us and always will be. Emmanuel had six toes and six fingers which, if you didn't know about you can't tell in the prints but his cleft lip is clearly visible.
I'm just putting it down to her ignorance but her words did hurt. I think I'm just in a bit of shock that she would say something like this. His photo will definately remain in our lounge room as he will forever be part of our family.
It sounds beautiful, and a lovely way to remember him by. I'm sure he was a gorgeous little boy, no matter what he looked like. Some people really don't think before they speak.
Oh hun, I am so sad for you that she was so thoughtless . It sounds like such a lovely thing that you have done, I hope it brings you some pleasure and peace.
I have no idea???? But I am so sorry for you that she would be so cruel...like you say he is a much wanted and treasured part of your family and there is no reason to ever hide him away. Huge hugs and best wishes.xxxxx
Oh Dianne, how cruel of her. I'm so sorry, people can be so thoughtless - huge cyber hugs coming your way. Emmanuel was too perfect for this world. Place a kiss on his perfect little face in that picture from me. xx
Some people just don't think before they speak unfortunatly & I'm so sorry you had to deal with that.
My MIL is very much the same - she doesn't like us talking about our daughter due to her fiance having strict religious beliefs, pretends she was never born etc.... My husband & I don't have any pictures of our bub due to severe deformities (she suffered from severe hydrocephalus & the fluid they had to remove before I could give birth caused her head/skull to cave in at the back) by our own choice as we wanted to think of our lil one as the perfect angel we all see our bubs as but we had gorgeous pictures done through the site 'To Write Their Names In The Sand'. I paid for the photos & we gave a set to my folks, hubby's father, mother, my grandma, his grandparents as well as for ourselves. Everyone else adored them (my grandma even cried when we gave them to her she loves them so much - Ashley is her first great grandchild) but my MIL called it a 'cheap' Christmas present. I was furious that she said that to hubby & he was gutted that something that was seen by precious & priceless to everyone else in the family was seen as cheap to his own mother.
I think what you did sounds like a beautiful way to remember your son. He's your lil angel & you are free to remember him in whatever way you choose to, especially in your own home. All our lil angels are perfect in every way, no matter what anyone else thinks.
How could she be so nasty?
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