So many....

[ButterflyForever]

6 babies are born sleeping everday in australia. everyday 6 sets of parents join our shi**ty club.
Ahurani's news has torn me to pieces. Why does the universe wait until the very end to take our babies from us? the finish line in site but we never get our prize. its so unfair.

Yeah, it is the club that nobody ever wants to join, and it really only is those people in that club that really get it. That know how we really feel. Also yes, it does feel like a diffrent world, 'a parallel' you come out of hospital and wonder why everbody is acting like it they always did.
I hate the fact that someone new has to keep joining club, and walking down that same path that we have.
It's too cruel.

[~Jayne~]

Lilias - your post is just about word for word what I was going to post! I don't know how a human can have enough strength in themselves to be able to say hello & goodbye to a much-wanted, forever-cherished, unconditionally loved child. I just don't know how they can pick themselves up again. I just don't. I'm in awe of the bravery of these women. I really, truly am.

My heart literally aches for the beautiful Mumma's how have walked the terrifying road of losing a precious Angel.

Words are so insignificant but they are truly meant.

xx

[Mum2SweetCs]

There do seem to be alot of full term angels being born lately. I often avoid the threads about it because my heart aches too much for my mind to even bear the thought. It is so terribly sad that anyone has to go through losing a loved one at all, but for a parent to have to say hello and good bye to their precious little baby in one breath is all too heatbreaking. My soul aches for all of the parents who have had to do it. Life is just not fair sometimes.

Totally agree.

It just breaks my heart hearing all these stories. I silently followed yours Tashybabe and yours Skybie. I am always lost for words. It was so heartbreaking for me to read let alone for you guys to experience it first hand...

[Beautiful Disaster]

Hi Ladies. I am not a member of your crappy club as you call it but very close to Kobz. She herself doesnt know what happened at this stage but I am sure when she is feeling up to it she will hopefully let us all know. We have been through so much in our BB group and have all gotten so close. When i got the txt i couldnt believe it. Still cant. Im sorry to all of you that have or are going on this same journey.
Those are some pretty scary statistics.

[skybie]

We do it because we have to.

i dont enjoy injecting myself with insulin everyday, but i do it because i have to

What choice did we have really? one of the hardest, saddest days of our lives, but for me now, i can look back on his birthday and smile when i think of him.

[MrsBexie]

Ladies I am so sorry. I wish I knew some super magical thing that could stop this from happening and bring your angels back. I have no idea what it would feel like but my heart shatters everytime I read another story or even see a signature that has the little angels in it. It honestly physically hurts me to think of a mother losing her baby.

I am so very sorry from the bottom of my heart.

[Michelle71]

We do it because we have to.

That's it exactly. There is little choice really. I remember sitting in a conference when pregnant with DD and realizing Caitlyn was actually one of the perinatal deaths being discussed in the stats on the screen. My stillborn baby girl was a number. One of many.

[skybie]

in all honesty i think us mummies of stillborns are the lucky ones. So many pregnancies end as a loss, needing d and c's and things like that, but we got to hold our babies, kiss them and cuddle them, tell them to their faces how much we love them, count all their fingers and toes, bath them, dress them and love them as much as we can even in such a short amount of time. So many mothers dont get to experience that when they loose their babies

[mummydreamer]

We do it because we have to.

yep, spot on. there is no choice. we have to do it. and we have to find the strength from somewhere to get through it. and for those of us with children already, we have to find the strength to get life back to routine, as much as is possible for us. it's so friggin tough, but we have no choice....life as we know it has forever changed, but our life still has to go on.....as hard as it is.....

[MrsFabuloso]

in all honesty i think us mummies of stillborns are the lucky ones. So many pregnancies end as a loss, needing d and c's and things like that, but we got to hold our babies, kiss them and cuddle them, tell them to their faces how much we love them, count all their fingers and toes, bath them, dress them and love them as much as we can even in such a short amount of time. So many mothers dont get to experience that when they loose their babies

Very true Skybie. I never got to hold my angels. It makes saying goodbye very difficult. Considering I actually had to give birth to my first angel, but the doctors decided he was too 'emaciated' for us to see him and say goodbye to him. It's been 13 years and I still think about it very often, I still hear the doctors words and see them put him into that kidney tray.

[skybie]

did u go back and shoot the doctor?????? Jacks skin had started to peel away from hischeeks leaving really really red cheeks, we still loved him and kissed him. what a horrible doctor u had, i'm so sorry u have that as a memory xxx

[TeniBear]

That's awful lilias

I've thought the same thing about we "stillborn mummies" being lucky in a sense...


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[Rainbow_Mumma]

That's one thing I'm grateful for too although I'm not a stillborn mumma I got to birth my baby and see him and hold him after he passed away.

I got told today that Anthonys passing can't effect me as much as a full term still birth because I didn't have as long to bond with him, he was 25 weeks, he wa alive for 3 hours how can that not hurt as much??


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[Bumperstump Cummerbund]

Wow Skybie, you've given me a new perspective I always figured that no matter how much I missed my babies, being only 6 weeks, it would be so much worse to lose a baby that looks like a baby y'know? And I don't apply that to anyone else, only myself strangely. It's why I'm hesitant to post in the stillborn/late loss threads, because I feel like I have no experience to draw from and you'd all be thinking 'what do YOU know?'

Baby loss is fricken awful, no matter how old

[~Hestia~]

I wouldn't even try to put myself in the same situation as all of you amazingly strong women. But I remember when I miscarried being astounded that the clocks were still ticking & the world was still turning, like nothing had happened. If that was just a tiny piece of the pain that you all experienced, I can't even begin to imagine how much it hurt

I think of you all everyday. Tashybabe, Skybie & now Aharuni to name a few

[skybie]

for me atm its like the worlds in fast forward and im sitting in it motionless. i worry that one day i'll get left behind

[mummydreamer]

for me atm its like the worlds in fast forward and im sitting in it motionless. i worry that one day i'll get left behind

oh my gosh that is EXACTLY how i feel!! i already feel like i've been left behind, and im still just going through the motions, wondering why the heck i don't have my baby?? and everyone has started moving on.....i just feel so lost.....

[skybie]

MD, i wish i could tell u when it gets easier, but i really dont know