need someone's opinion and someone to talk to (a teenager or young woman)

[.:scared:.]

hey, i need some information from a teenage mum or a young mum. what is it like? how did u decide what to do when you were pregnant? what symptoms did u get before you found out you were pregnant? how did the father of the baby (hopefully ur bf) react? and anything else you can add to prepare a young, very young maybe pregnant teenager....
ash xx

[Chocaholic]

I am not a teenage mum but best wishes. You must be petrified.

I suggest you see your GP and confirm whether you are pregnant or not. They will be able to help you with your options and maybe even help talk to your parents if you need them to.

Do you have anyone you can talk to? Maybe a teacher or parent of a friend?

Good luck sweetie!

[Reborn]

Hey there. I was engaged when i got pg and I thought my man would run. He's already got 1 son and thats not going well. So when i told him I was terrified. He was so happy though!!!! And now were married and trying again. I felt sick and 'stretchy'. Like my body was stretching out to make room. Thats the only way I can describe it. I was scared of the whole pg and labour and what I'd do after. But I had some help and some common sense so now were doing okay.

If you ever need someone to talk to send me a msg. Apart from that congrats chick and good luck

[BrightSparkles]

Sweetie, sending you lots of hugs.

My first suggestion is to do a hm pg test or head to the doctor to make sure either way. You don't want to be stressing about nothing.

Of course, the idea of a little bubba - another life, can freak some guys (and girls for that matter out). The best thing you can do is to talk about your feelings. Do you have other family members around that you can talk to that you trust??
There are quite a number of services out there to support young mums, both emotionally and materialistic stuff.

Symptoms can include... morning (or all day) sickness, sore boobs, missed period, tiredness, constant toilet trips.

For me personally, i don't think i could have coped as a young young mum... but its only you that can decide that. Of course, the girls on BB with give you all the support you need. You ae the one that will have to live with your choice either way.

Of course though...there are benefits to being a young mummy things like having the energy to cope with an active little one and all those night shifts LOL. I personally wouldn't change it for the world.

We are all here to support you hun and here if you need to chat.
Good Luck hun. Sending you lots of hugs. xxxx

[Lulu]

There is a whole section dedicated to young parents around here somewhere.

good luck xoxoxo

[Fleur]

I am not a teenage mum anymore, but I was...I was 16 when I fell pregnant with my daughter ... she is now 14.

What is it like? scary..but I think being a first time mum is a bit scary anyway.

How to decide what to do.. the first thing you have to do is do a test... even the home tests you can get at the supermarket are very accurate, (i used one for this bub when I was 2 days late & it showed up, I didn't think it would). So that is the first thing, as jennjorja said, you don't want to be stressing about nothing. If its positive you need to see a doctor and get an estimate of your dates, then you can make decisions about what next.

As for symptoms, I didn't get any until I found out then all of a suddedn the morning sickness hit... everyone is different... tiredness, nausea, needing to go to the toilet lots are the most common early symptoms... you might have no symptoms at all other than a late period.

My boyfriend was ok about it, just as shocked as I was and although he was young too I think he tried to do as best as he could then. We stayed together another couple of years, not together anymore but that's life & that happens to adults too

The best thing you can do is find someone to talk to, if not a family member maybe a friends mother, if not family or friends then a family planning clinic counsellor, they deal with these situations all the time and it is all confidential.
The best thing you can do is talk! You need to know you're not alone and talking helps you see things clearly.

Good luck!