I am not a teenage mum but best wishes. You must be petrified.
I suggest you see your GP and confirm whether you are pregnant or not. They will be able to help you with your options and maybe even help talk to your parents if you need them to.
Do you have anyone you can talk to? Maybe a teacher or parent of a friend?
Hey there. I was engaged when i got pg and I thought my man would run. He's already got 1 son and thats not going well. So when i told him I was terrified. He was so happy though!!!! And now were married and trying again. I felt sick and 'stretchy'. Like my body was stretching out to make room. Thats the only way I can describe it. I was scared of the whole pg and labour and what I'd do after. But I had some help and some common sense so now were doing okay.
If you ever need someone to talk to send me a msg. Apart from that congrats chick and good luck
My first suggestion is to do a hm pg test or head to the doctor to make sure either way. You don't want to be stressing about nothing.
Of course, the idea of a little bubba - another life, can freak some guys (and girls for that matter out). The best thing you can do is to talk about your feelings. Do you have other family members around that you can talk to that you trust??
There are quite a number of services out there to support young mums, both emotionally and materialistic stuff.
Symptoms can include... morning (or all day) sickness, sore boobs, missed period, tiredness, constant toilet trips.
For me personally, i don't think i could have coped as a young young mum... but its only you that can decide that. Of course, the girls on BB with give you all the support you need. You ae the one that will have to live with your choice either way.
Of course though...there are benefits to being a young mummy things like having the energy to cope with an active little one and all those night shifts LOL. I personally wouldn't change it for the world.
We are all here to support you hun and here if you need to chat.
Good Luck hun. Sending you lots of hugs. xxxx
I am not a teenage mum anymore, but I was...I was 16 when I fell pregnant with my daughter ... she is now 14.
What is it like? scary..but I think being a first time mum is a bit scary anyway.
How to decide what to do.. the first thing you have to do is do a test... even the home tests you can get at the supermarket are very accurate, (i used one for this bub when I was 2 days late & it showed up, I didn't think it would). So that is the first thing, as jennjorja said, you don't want to be stressing about nothing. If its positive you need to see a doctor and get an estimate of your dates, then you can make decisions about what next.
As for symptoms, I didn't get any until I found out then all of a suddedn the morning sickness hit... everyone is different... tiredness, nausea, needing to go to the toilet lots are the most common early symptoms... you might have no symptoms at all other than a late period.
My boyfriend was ok about it, just as shocked as I was and although he was young too I think he tried to do as best as he could then. We stayed together another couple of years, not together anymore but that's life & that happens to adults too
The best thing you can do is find someone to talk to, if not a family member maybe a friends mother, if not family or friends then a family planning clinic counsellor, they deal with these situations all the time and it is all confidential.
The best thing you can do is talk! You need to know you're not alone and talking helps you see things clearly.
Hi Ash
If you need a midwife to chat to feel free to contact me at any time. Everything that we talk about will remain between us.
also as the others have said you need to find out if you are pregnant. You can miss a period for quite a number of reasons. get yourself a home pregnancy test or take a trip to the doctors.
Hey, i'm 19, i'm pregnant with my first. Honestly, i'm freaking out.
My bf and i joked one day about having a baby, and sorta started trying. If we got pregnant, awesome! If not, then oh well.
Eight months later, i saw the two little lines show up and suddenly, "HOLY SH*T!!! What the hell have we done!!!!"
After a couple of pretty freaked out hours i'd calmed down and gotten used to it.
Aborting was never really an option for me, I had done a highschool debate on abortion and i had to research it, and i don't even think i could go through with doing it.
Plus i figured i'm old enough and DP and i are stable enough to be able to do this together. And plus plus, I was going to have a baby!! Yay! Lol.
I'd pretty much figured out i was pregnant before i took the test. Symptoms were, EXTREME pms like symptoms, i would go from screaming at DP cause he didn't come and give me a kiss AS SOON as he got home, to crying as though my whole world had ended because i missed hungry jacks brekkie by ten mins.
Also was getting all the symptoms like the ones you get before that time of the month, i.e. bloating, sore boobs (!!!), cramps, etc etc.
Smells would get to me like you wouldn't believe, anything that was a little funky smelling sent me reeling towards the bathroom.
My partner is 23 and already has a little girl (3 and a half) from a previous relationship, so he was pretty relaxed about the whole thing. He was 19 when his daughter was born to his then 16yr old gf. So he'd done the whole scenario before and was just happy.
Honestly, it really kinda depends on your age and your own situation. Just remember, this isn't the end of the world. Your not alone, and you CAN do this.
Being a parent is damn hard (so everyone tells me, lol), being pregnant is sometimes awesome, and sometimes you just want the kid out......NOW!!!!! (like how i'm feeling at the moment).
One thing is so true though, (for me at least) when you feel a bit of your baby brushing the inside of your skin and a little lump comes up on your tummy, and you press it, and then it presses back, the outside world doesn't exist, and even though you haven't met them yet, you already love them more than you could ever love anything or anyone else. (oh sshhh everyone, Peanut and I had a moment today)
If you are pregnant, get some support around you, your mum will automatically become your new best friend, you guys will be closer than ever.
Hopefully your bf will be into it if you are and if you decide to keep it.
If he's not, then it's completely up to you what you do.
Take a test, see what happens.
If you'd like to talk sometime, private message me or something.
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