boyfriends...AAH!

[Lulu]

I hear you! DD is a little alternative herself and I had the same boyfriend worries. At one stage she was fighting with all her friends at once (this really worried me), but she has since got herself on track again. Once she told me some of the issues she had with some friends I was pretty proud of herself for standing strong for what she believed in. She has sorted out the real friends from the crap pretty early. Just had to trust her belief in herself. The thing that keeps me from stressing too much is my DD is doing well at school too.

I did put limits on the amount of time she spent on the computer/phone with him as it was getting irritating, and I don't let her "hang out" at his place all holidays. I'm happy to have him here, and I'm always very welcoming to him.
I've drop-kicked her off to Wilderness Camp today for 10 days. That will keep her out of trouble (not that she is in any but ykwim?), and I like the busyness and the achievements she can accomplish for a bit of a confidence boost (whilst washing her own dishes tee heee!).

Gonna miss the little bugger - oh and her BF has been around for quite a few months now, he's actually not a bad kid.

[annie123]

i have the same busyness theory , try to involve her in othr stuff. It's my current strategy , that and encourage her to do things with othr people . So far so good, the bf seems to have agrophobia of some kind so is not keen on going places including our house. He was in my son's yr at school and he was witness to the bf's self harm incident at school. Needless to say he's not too happy about coming here when big brother is home.
My son was a very vrbally agressive kid at the same age and i can remember considering sending him to live with his dad until he grew up some, reality is he was much worse than his sister. HOwever... here's the hope !!! He 's now 19 , 2nd yr at uni with distinctions and credits, is turning into a very nice young man who hugs his mum nearly everyday voluntarily. He's becoming responsible and pleasant and seems to appreciate everything thats done for him.
So ... i know i've just gotta ride the wave with her... trouble is it can so easily feel like a tsunami and you're drowning. Thanks so much Lulu.. it's nice to have a friendly ear
xxxx
Enjoy the wilderness time... i wonder if they have such a thing up here.