I hear you! DD is a little alternative herself and I had the same boyfriend worries. At one stage she was fighting with all her friends at once (this really worried me), but she has since got herself on track again. Once she told me some of the issues she had with some friends I was pretty proud of herself for standing strong for what she believed in. She has sorted out the real friends from the crap pretty early. Just had to trust her belief in herself. The thing that keeps me from stressing too much is my DD is doing well at school too.

I did put limits on the amount of time she spent on the computer/phone with him as it was getting irritating, and I don't let her "hang out" at his place all holidays. I'm happy to have him here, and I'm always very welcoming to him.
I've drop-kicked her off to Wilderness Camp today for 10 days. That will keep her out of trouble (not that she is in any but ykwim?), and I like the busyness and the achievements she can accomplish for a bit of a confidence boost (whilst washing her own dishes tee heee!).

Gonna miss the little bugger - oh and her BF has been around for quite a few months now, he's actually not a bad kid.