Child Access Laws. Need info badly

[kerry]

I think in Vic it is 12 but the feelings of the child are considered from an earlier range, also as kids differ and develop at different rates how much attention the court pays depends on the child themselves.

How old are the children hurting your daughter?

Would it be possible to get an restraining order against these kids?

IMO, I would not make her go, if she is as traumatised as you say I would just tell your X that until the issue is resolved you will not be making your daughter attend access visits. BUT when doing this I would be offering the X some alternatives and making sure that it he knows it isn't him you are objecting to... ok let me think... maybe even suggest a combined 'family' meeting with you (your partner), X, his partner and all the kids.... set some rules, everyone who wants to say something can and when they are talking others wont be allowed to interupt, when you are talking you aren't allowed to be mean or nasty to others, etc.... maybe it is something that can be easily resolved.

This sounds like some major bullying and it needs to stop.

ETA: In VIC access to both parents is the RIGHT OF THE CHILD (not the parent). It is also the child's right to be proved with a safe environment. From what you have said your X is not providing a safe environment for your DD which means she can not exicute her right to see him. He needs to address the issue. I would definately be ringing family services / legal aid for some advice.

I have told my X that he can not have access to our DD while he has his other son there. We have had attempts at smothering, knocking over or pushing down back steps of our DD and even attempts to stab her. I do allow him to see her when he has his son if I am also there for a few hours but that's it. It is hard because atm my DD adores her big brother even though he is awful to her. My X keeps threatening to take me to court over this issue but lucky for me I know it is just vacant threats.