We didn't go anywhere on school nights unless it was as a family, or to sports training, or after yr 10, to the library to study. I certainly wasn't allowed just to be out and about wih my friends - and none of them were either.
Weekends were pretty full on with sport or family stuff. Sometimes we might go over to a friends place but never really 'went out' for the sake of it.
I think 1am is way too late. My kids don't have a regular curfew as such, it all depends on what they're doing and who they're doing it with. But school nights I think 7.30pm is very acceptable if it's a social thing, quite often mine would be at sports training though and we don't get home until after 9pm, which I hate.
Before my 15yo DD went to boarding school (where they have a 9.45pm lights out curfew) she wasn't allowed out at all on a school night but was allowed to stay at a friends place until 10pm on Fridays and Saturdays... not to be wandering around... at a designated place. it's the wandering around that so many parents seem to allow that worries me... at any time.
DD1 doesn't have a 'curfew' as such, we take it on a case by case basis...
Usually on a weeknight she has to be home by dark, so at the moment it's around 5:30 - 6:00.
Thursdays if she goes late night, it would be 9:30.
On a weekend it's much the same unless one of us is picking her up from somewhere, then it might be a bit later, but only as late as we can stay awake, lol.
Like Bath, I'm not a fan of them being out wandering around, I like to know where she is & what she's doing... I always have been like that but even more so now, (we have had some problems wiht her in the last 12 mths ) but it's a safety issue too, I hate the thought of her catching a bus at night with all those creeps out there.
ETA - the biggest problem I actually have is with what other parents allow - what are they going to be doing when they are elsewhere? and the 'but she caaaaan' argument gets realllly old.
Sheesh! I don't like the idea of a 14 yr old to be out and about on their own at all. But then maybe that's me. I feel sorry for my kids, I daresay I'm going to be very unpopular in a few years LOL!
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Re: Curfews?
) but it's a safety issue too, I hate the thought of her catching a bus at night with all those creeps out there.
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