Hugs to you Dinky, and congrats for being able to continue yourself.

Is this the first major death your family has had? Not that it should make a difference if it's not, but if your children have had a death before they may know a bit more how they feel about it IYKWIM. My grandma died when I was 14, but we had a lot of time to accept that, so it's a bit different.

I've been to a lot of family funerals, and feel a bit bad that only one of them really knocked me for six (and still does). The one thing that helped was being able to talk to someone, our University pastor, just about how I was feeling, so I could make it through the day again. It would be great if you could sit with your girls and have a big talk about it, but maybe seeing you upset would upset them more? Do you have anyone the girls could talk to without it upsetting them?

Best of luck with this, just wanted to give you a hug even if I can't help and grief is something that hits people hard and just wanted to say it's OK to grieve and everyone needs help sometimes.