Sorry but i'm not quite there yet Soul....

But I think some body piercing is ok, especially as i have a few, I would try and put her off as long as possible and make sure that she was sure about it. My eldest dd is a real wus and hates needles so she may never want to (of course things change) Plus you can take them out with minimal scarring.

I know someone that let their 9yo get some blonde foils (she had dark brown hair) and i was horrified.... She was also given a mobile phone at that age. I'm not sure about that one as you want to experiment etc etc but once you start it never ends.

No swearing here either.

This one is scary...... Kids want to experiment with smoking and drinking aswell and my eldest has cystic fibrosis and if she smokes it will probably kill her or at least do severe damage to her lungs. I wonder how that is going to go down in the teenage years?? Ive already started telling her that it will make her really sick.

Sorry I haven't really helped you just babbled....