thanks for the advice ladies, i spoke to her again lastnight to 'get the gossip' she was excited to tell me about him, also told me that mum has made it clear that if she started dating this guy then she would get all over protective and stop her from seeing him as much, so i really think my mum has shot herself in the foot. my sis says she doesnt want to tell her becasue she cant be bothered with all the hastle it will casue and she doesnt want mum to stop her seeing him.

I have talked a little about sex with her, she has a few really good books aimed at teens explaining all about sex and my mum was always quite open about it all, but i remember what its like as a kid....although i wasnt doing the stuff she is doing at 14 till i was 16/17. but maybe i should just talk about it a bit more. i think she does listen to me a bit, but i want to give her the right advice. Turtleschell: i might steel some of those pointers!! thanks

Maybe im just being too cynical but i know at some point im going to have her on the phone sooner or later crying! asking why i didnt warn about this happening! i know its all part of growing up, but it still upsets me!!!!