O man DD16 has been an absolute PRINCESS lately and its starting to get me down.

Quite frankly I think the truth is that she is spoilt and lazy, teenage moodiness aside and its going too far. She has 3 jobs to do - unload the dishwasher, feed the cat and hang out her washing/fold the sheets and towels. In order to get things done she must be reminded/hassled to do every job, every time. She gets shirty when reminded, goes to bed early to avoid it and will take as long as possible.

I need her to do the dishwasher before bed or before she goes to school so the dishes dont pile up through the day (no I WONT do it for her, its her fricken plan that I do it). So after the past 3 months I have now told her she can be slack with unloading but if there is a backlog of dishes she will have to reload. So first time it happens of course tonight.....and you should have heard the howls of protest and whining, why should she touch anyone else's dirty dishes??? Even if they were the dishes used to prepare HER meal. The carry on is embarrassing.

She moans about Dp when he is here even to the point of saying untrue things about him to her councellor, shes fine to ask him for money or anything else she wants because she knows I will tell her to pull her finger out before she gets anything.
I've stopped going to the councellor with her now, I don't think there is much point. It was good when she needed to express her needs regarding her biological father (eerrr yuk and another story in itself), and I did what she needed. But now its at the point where her issues are just the usual teenage power struggles and Im fine to handle that. Last time I went I felt that she was using it purely to get what she wants - which at the time was to allow her to sleep over at a boys house (UM, NO, not yet). When she listed her demands I again refused on the basis that she had shown no sign of the maturity needed to gain those freedoms. When she could help around the house and do her jobs without calling in Amnesty International in protest we could talk, until then NADA. To her horror the councellor agreed with me at which point she just threatened to leave school (and I had a feeling she might actually do it out of spite). We both gently pointed out the realities of her moving out (ffs!, she thought moving in with ExH would buy her more freedom but she fails to see he would be far stricter than me!).

We had another argument on the weekend about her stuffing me around when I was trying to get over to Williamstown for our photos and I ended up telling her not to come. I was heartbroken and nearly didn't see the point of going but I knew she would make everyone miserable the whole way there....as she does when she is dissatisfied.

In any case - and this has obviously turned into a mega rant but the point is - I am sick of the Jeckyll and Hyde personality. She is sickeningly sweet when she wants something but then turns on a tanty when she doesn't get her own way, and she is really nasty.

She gets away with it alot because I feel like I lose track of it. I swear not to carry on at her when she does this and mentally note it down so when she asks for money or a lift I can happily say, no I can't be bothered. But then I forget, then I get even more annoyed next time she does it because I've bloody well cut her slack and she can't even appreciate it.

So from now, I'm going to note it down in here (vent again I suppose) so I can keep track and not lose my head. In all honesty I think I'm so tied up about it is because she is showing the ickier side of herself (and we have a crapish side) far more often than the great. Its hard to enjoy the good moments because it feel like they will always be followed by some demand . And really, all she has to do is get off her butt a bit more but she breaks her neck to avoid doing anything for anyone but herself

Oh lord....gold stars for everyone that made it to the end...