Lulu, what about taking her shopping, finding the dress and putting it on layby? That way she'll actually be getting excited about "the" dress and you can refer to it and it's not just an "idea" IYKWIM?

Maybe then it will hold more weight with her when you tell her "ok, put these clothes away, thats $5 off your dress"!

I definatly don't think you should let her have it without working for it. I would be excited about doing all that for DD's but not after all the attitude you've been getting - and I think it's important she knows that. You would be willing to be more reasonable (not that I think you're not) if SHE would be more reasonable.

Also, is her Dad going to help out with paying for it all? I bet it gets a bit exxy.

Good luck hun, I bet you can't wait till she gets to an age where she becomes nice again!