The thing about TAFE though, is there are no boundaries at all. It doesn't matter if you don't go, you simply fail and I'm not sure if its the right way to go.

Can you round up your village for support? I have spoken to nearly every adult in her life. My mum, dad, her step dad and 'real' dad, her aunt, MY step-dad and a couple of her friends parents. I've let them know she is going through WHATEVER right now, but she needs to be taught boundaries and respect, and I need everyones help. We are literally forming a brick wall against her will. Sounds crap but its what needs to be done.

Poppy was the worst, always overindulging her - and I did lots of the things you did with your DD too, but it was never enough. And I've had enough. I'm sad that she may miss out on things, but dammit SHE is making all the choices here, so she can take the consequences herself.

Absolutely STAND YOUR GROUND on the name calling. We can both be each others backup if you want (AND all the fabbo ladies in both these threads!). I have decided I am also stopping all the little things that I do here and there. She can work them back but Im not giving it away for free anymore.......

I'll shout you a box of hair dye if we both get though Xmas in one piece! XOXOXOXO