sleep overs

[feeb]

I didnt have a male stay over till i was 21!!!! (which was the man i eventulaly married)

I dont know whether it was cause mum and dad didnt like ex or cause they thought i was to young never argued as at 17 (nearly) 18 i was i living in halls of residence at uni and you could have anyone stay in your room and no one cared!

[mrsmac]

I have let DD's boyfriend stay once when DH was away!!The bf slept on the sofa bed in the playroom though. I am not comfortbale with him sleeping in her room (DH isn't comfortable with him sleeping in her house!)
BTW she is 16.

[melham74]

DD is 12 and I think as she gets older if a boy was to stay here DH would sit up all night with a broomstick or shotgun nearby (LOL) and no way would I allow her to stay at a boys house

[MrsB26]

My mum let my BF sleep over from when i was 16 but we were in seperate bedrooms. When i was nearly 18 (with the same bf) she let us sleep in the same room but always made it clear that she was still a little uncomfortable (who wouldnt be?) When i slept at my BF house (16) we slept in the same room but me in the single bed and him on the floor.

I had male friends sleep over from early teens (just friends) and at my house we were always in seperate bedrooms but when i slept at their house we always shared a room or a bed. Nothing was going to happen as we were just friends but i have never thought about it till now that the parents of the boys were always more relaxed about it than my mum. My mother ws never strict with us in any other way.

It's such a hard decision, i guess when the time comes yu will deal with it the best way you see fit. Mum was always very honest with me about how she felt so i knew that if i did the wrong thing then i would be hurting her, this made me behave MOST of the time but teenagers are teenagers.

[Ca Plane Pour Moi]

IMO, there's no need for it unless the boyf/girlf lives more than an hour away. Then seperate rooms. Obviously if they are married or maybe engaged I'll rethink, but just boyf/girlf then no. No sleeping over and no sleeping out.

Why do I feel like this? Well, I was never allowed to sleep with anyone until I was 22 and less than a year off being married. That was sleeping, not doing anything else! DH was in the guest room before that. My sister was sleeping (et cetera) with her boyf and him sleeping round at ours when she was 15. (2 years between us, not 7 btw.) Oh, but I did sleep with a male best mate from about 14 when I used to sneak out at night, or tell my mum I was at a girlfriend's place, but that was sleeping, nothing else. Because I had to get out the house one way or the other and doing it alive always seemed the best option where possible. All-nighters with the boys were always more fun than girly ones anyway.

[*Efjay*]

My god i didn't even realise this was something I would need to think about...
My answer would be No to sleeping out but *maybe* to having someone stay. that goes for both the boys & girls in my family.
I would have been 15 when I was staying at my boyfriends place & I am pretty sure Mum had to be clued on to what was going on as he was 21 & lived on his own. Wow, I have never really thought that hard about that. My Mum was pretty cool!
But me staying overnight had more to do with some issues going on at home then it did with me wanting to stay out. But thats another post!

[canberramomma]

Let's face it, they're gonna do it! The question we really have to ask is "Are we going to make it easy or difficult for them?".

I think it's just another individual parenting decision.