Your son sounds like my brother. And thats not a good thing. My brother is no role model for anyone, i love him dearly, hes my baby brother but he had a criminal record at 11. He lit fires and was caught shop lifting. That part doesn't sound like your son but the lying and the smoking does. My brother did these things to try and fit in with the 'cool' kids at school. I know you already know this but you really need to get on top of this, as it can next lead to him being caught stealing or even worse.

Don't punish him too much as he will see this as a way to rebel against you, and that will only lead to worse things, just explain to him the consequences of smoking, that he may see it as a harmless act now but in many years to come it can have a terrible effect on his health such as lung cancer and emphysema (sp?) but also say how disappointed you are, make him feel bad for it. My mum played that card alot when i was a teenager and i felt terrible that she was disappointed.

I hope my advice helps you any, i have a massive headache and am tired so don't know if i got out what i wanted to say.

You have a good kid, you really do he just seems to be falling into the wrong crowd and making silly choices.

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