I never thought it would happen to me :(

[Jaye.Dea]

To Megs75, Satya, Cherie26, mrsaym, meg-mum-of-1, britkane8, kryslass, lj2685 and Lissie
I cannot believe the amount of support you have shown to me. I chatted on here once thinking that no-one would bother!. It is sad that we are all in the same situation, but then it is that what brings us closer together I think. I am more overwhelmed to know that there are some people out there that are actually listening to me. I thought I might take a break from trying to have children as I thought this might not be for me after all but you have all given me the confidence to continue. It took me so long to conceive the first time (last time) that I was so overjoyed about being pregnant. Then to lose it was devastating. I have finally found someone in RL life to talk to. My friend Kel has expressed her sorrow which is a lot more than I can say for my family.

I will be back soon - think I might go see what the DL is doing

Love to you all and keep trying
Jaimi

[Megs75]

jaimi so nice to hear from you please dont give up. it will happen for you. you just need to surround yourself with positive people, like the bb group and obviously your friend Kel.
im a little sad as i thought this month was my month but AF arrived...grrrr. its so hard to be patient and let time tell. AF is just a constant reminder of what might have been. i hate this bit when you just have to wait till you can start ttc.
best of luck to you. im so glad you have decided to keep trying. sending you loads of for you.
love megs

[jla]

hi guys u are all so supportive its great!!
I agree with one of the posts in saying that miscariges happen to us for a reason and that sometimes there might be something wrong with those little babies we loose, and sometimes life has its own cruel way of directing us on our journeys, like maybe it just wasnt the right time,like they say everything happens for a reason but one will never know why? it has to be so cruel sometimes.
I too lost a baby last november at 10 weeks its just so heart breaking but when i look back over the last 7 months i have had alot to deal with emotionally as i lost my mother to cancer last year and my sister in september to namonia and just recently had to have a corneal transplant done on my right eye so its till i look back and realise that it just maybe wasnt the right time in my life for another baby even though i thought i was ready for one anyway i thought this might help sharing this with u all
i hope it does.and i know that it is hard but we all just have to keep our heads up high and still try to enjoy everyday as it comes and when it is our turn to have a baby it will be AWSOME JUST THE BEST!!!

THANKS FOR LISTENING TO MY BABLE HOPE IT MADE SENSE!!!

[jla]

hi guys u are all so supportive its great!!
I agree with one of the posts in saying that miscariges happen to us for a reason and that sometimes there might be something wrong with those little babies we loose, and sometimes life has its own cruel way of directing us on our journeys, like maybe it just wasnt the right time,like they say everything happens for a reason but one will never know why? it has to be so cruel sometimes.
I too lost a baby last november at 10 weeks its just so heart breaking but when i look back over the last 7 months i have had alot to deal with emotionally as i lost my mother to cancer last year and my sister in september to namonia and just recently had to have a corneal transplant done on my right eye so its till i look back and realise that it just maybe wasnt the right time in my life for another baby even though i thought i was ready for one anyway i thought this might help sharing this with u all
i hope it does.and i know that it is hard but we all just have to keep our heads up high and still try to enjoy everyday as it comes and when it is our turn to have a baby it will be AWSOME JUST THE BEST!!!

THANKS FOR LISTENING TO MY BABLE HOPE IT MADE SENSE!!!

[jude]

sorry about your loss Your mum is obviously unaware of what she says being upsetting as that is how it was done back in her day and you just need to let her know so she can grow . My dad said that to my sister when she delievered her daughter stillborn at 38 wks and didnt realise how hurtful that was but after spending some time with him and discussing it he was able to be more sensitive when i lost my first daughter so give her a chance as she will be a wonderful support that you need at this time I hope that helps but people usually dont know what to say at times like this and you usually just want acknowlegement of your baby

[Jayney]

It is so nice to not be alone in this. We spend so much time thinking maybe it was too much coffee, Maybe I lifted something too heavy( like a 3 year old), maybe maybe maybe. But in the end we just drive ourselves crazy. I have just had my 3 rd early miscarriage or chemical pregnancies. I'm sure earlier is better than later on but...it still sucks.
My mom said "In my day we had to wait until AF was two weeks late..." In which case I wouldn't have known I was pregnant except I knew all three times before testing. Sometimes I wish I was one of those women who are surprised they are pregnant and don't even think to test until they are more than 6 weeks.
It would have saved me such heartache.

[Hilary23]

I am so very sorry for your loss. It WAS a real baby and don't let anyone ever tell you otherwise. Mothers have a connection to their babies the moment they find out about them and that connection is very real and very strong.
Just because you didn't give birth doesn't mean you weren't a mommy, even if just for a short while.
HUGE hugs.
Hilary