I lost my first bub at 8 weeks and it broke my heart, I was then very very very fortunate to concieve in the very next cycle and Isabella is now 13 months old.
We are gearing up to ttc in the next few months and I am feeling pertrafied that I will MC again in my next preg, I guess this is normal to have this fear but I am finding that it is taking away from the excitement that I want to be feeling.
I am sure that any one who has suffered a loss and is ttc would be familiar with this feeling - how did you over come this and start to be excited again??
Kate
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Totally normal, no matter how much we want to trust our bodys to carry a healthy pregnancy it is really hard to get passed that feeling of loss when you have had a pregnancy that ended early.
im in the exact same position, we are planning on TTC after march, and to be honest it is scaring the crap outta me!
I waited 3 months after losing the first baby to try again, I just couldnt face the thought of going through all that again.
But then another 3 months later we got PG with J who is now 14 mths old, and all those old thoughts and fears are re surfacing at the prospect of being PG again.
But do you know what? We are women, we are strong, we can take it, as heartbreaking as it would be to go through the pain of loss again, I know in my heart that I could deal with it.
well, thats what I tell myself anyway....
hugs hun. xx
I'm scared too. We're going to probably start TTC in about 6 months. I was like you - m/c at 8wks and then pregnant with DD the next cycle. I thought after having a healthy pg with DD I wouldn't be scared anymore.
Starry - yep i know that I am strong and I could cope - but its really scary isnt it! i thought also that once I had had Bella that I would all be ok - but my heart remebers the pain to well.
Heaven - I am glad that I am not the only one! I hope that we have a good ttc journey and not have to suffer the pain again!
Ill be thinking of you both as we emark on our ttc journeys!
I know exactly how you feel hun. :hugs:
We are TTC #2 at the moment and im scared but excited at the same time. Our DS was a 3rd time lucky bubba as I had 2 m/c before him. I guess like the other ladies said it's totally normal to feel this way.
Fingers crossed everything works out for you
I feel the same - we have just started ttc again and i am probably more scared of seeing 2 lines then i am of seeing 1. I will always feel this way, just as all the way through ds's pregnancy i was s*!t scared he was going to leave too.....................I hope it all works out just fine this time around for you xx
Apes - thanks xox and i hope it all works out for you too!
Kristy - I get everything that you say! I had a rough preg with DD as well and had many lots of bleeding and was so scared to enjoy it incase she left as well. I really dont know how to deal with all that again when (if) we fall again.. I cant wait to see the 2 magic lines but its cares the hell out of me too!
Hope your ttc journey is fast and safe! xox
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