just quickly from me... Sally - I have been where you are month after month pretty much every month since the m/c in July. Except for us the problem is much bigger. DH has issues reaching climax - don't know why as it didn't used to be a problem before the m/c in July.. but since then it is a big big issue for us. Some months we are lucky to get one "successful attempt" in the O window. And I have spent night after night in tears and so angry and worked up... one night I actually had a panic attack I worked myself up so much. I will be honest, some months when AF arrives I have felt so angry with him - but for the most part I am ok... I know he tries really really hard (which I guess may be part of the problem for him - he is putting too much pressure on himself maybe?) so I try not to get upset... and I guess we never really know if this month would have been our month anyway - there are never any guarantees - even when we feel like we have done "everything right" iykwim.