Trying to Conceive after Miscarriage/Loss April/May 2009

[Anila]

hugs and cuddles to ferrals4, Counting Days, Greenslw, Melody7.

Melody7, i am so sorry for your loss, i lost my baby tuesday last week and the bleeding stopped yesterday, so that was 7 days later, so hopefully by thursday your bleeding will also finish.
I havent bothered going back to have my hcg done, it was only 73 on tue, so i imagine it has dropped back to less than 5 by now.
I would keep trying to chart, if that is what you want to do, it might even help you to see, if you will o this cycle.

ferrals4, oh, hunni, i am so sorry that there was this stuff up with the camera, and i can feel how devestated you are, i know that you feel angry now, and it will be an anger that you will always carry with you, but im sure your little angel would not want her mummy to be so sad and angry. I wish i could put my hands through the comp and give u a big hug.


Does anyone know if you take the first day of mc bleeding as the first day of af?
Do i count cd1 as may 5?

[ferrals5]

Morning ladies

greenslw- i'm so excited for you i have a good feeling with all the signs and symptoms your getting.

Melody7- sorry about your loss no words can make the pain any easier i know how you feel i lost my girl at almost 20weeks and i could'nt look in the mirror without crying because my belly was gone and it felt so empty even though i have 3 boys it still hurts and i also feel like i don't have the time to wait as i'm 35 and with a POSSIBLE gene fault the reason for the loss of our daughter (still waiting on DNA results) my DH and i wanted to try a.s.a.p as we need to go for early scans and C.V.S testing to check the next baby is ok as we might have to try a few times to get a healthy baby.
Not sure about charting my was all over the place at first with hormones until i had a normal AF.

Counting Days-your turn will come i know it is hard it ###### me off when i see young ones having multiple kids when they smoke and drink i see it all the time where i work they drag them around like an accessory and rack in the FTB and theres people who can't have kids and would be fabulous parents and i just want a healthy one i don't smoke,drink,ect take all the vitimins and we still lost our girl life is not fair.

anyway my temp is still rising thats a good sign and i'm having slight pulling and niggling feeling in my left side hope it's what iv'e been praying for.

I have to get ready for work i will catch up tomorrow

[ferrals5]

Anila- didd'nt know you had posted until after i did thanks for your kind words.
you are suposed to wait for a normal AF after bleeding has stopped then count that as day 1 but it is possible to fall pregnant right after M/C as you will ov but it might take longer than a normal cycle and as hormones are all over the place you might not get any signs

[Anila]

Thanks ferrals, im not going to pay any attention to anything this cycle, and if hubby wants to dtd then i will, and just pray it happens, but if it doesnt then next cycle, i will take more notice iykwim.

I do hope you are feeling better today.

[coco1411]

Anila Im so sorry for your loss, wishing you all the best for the future and you get your forever baby xxx

Ferrals OMG at the hospital!!! I can't belive it!! How r u feeling today?

There seems to be so many new ppl here! I havent been in for a few days. Im hanging out to test or get a sign either way!! My temps are looking great Im wondering whether its a triphasic pattern..I havent had one before so it would be pretty cool!

I am looking forward to temping tmo! I cant belive it, my days are filled with "oooh cant wait to go to bed & wake up tomorrow to take my temp!" hahahaha

[milly5]

Hi ladies,
wow this board is busy, isn't it?

Hi Anila, my m/c was very recent too (24/4), and we had been trying for a while too. Sending hugs to you.

Fingers crossed for you coco!!

I posted a question up in my earlier post, but I think it may have been missed. I am going to make it big and bold so that no-one misses it LOL!!!

Question ladies - do any of you take baby aspirin?
I posted on the other board (TTCAML) here is the link but I am not sure if the link will work:

https://www.bellybelly.com.au/forums...-aspririn.html

I am still waiting for my blood results - the phone should ring any minute now .... (Thanks greenslw I am glad I am not the only one who is impatient).

[LittleOnes]

Milly5, haven't heard anything about baby aspirin but I would assume it is no better for you than normal aspirin and that is not recommended during early pregnancy because it thins your blood and can lead to MC apparently.

To all of the new members, sorry to see you here but welcome. I've only been here a short while myself and have found this a very warm and helpful place to be.

Ferrals, horrible news about the photos. I cannot imagine how painful that is. It is, however, a very good thing that they were able to get a photo after the autopsy. Not the same and no-where near enough but, as you said, better than nothing.

Take care everyone, feeling grumpy here because of heavy AF but happy because it means I'm back on track with my cycle already and that is good... (yes, I'm trying to convince myself!)

[charm]

hi everyone I just read another post where someone is having their second child

i think the topic was OMG number 2 already

could someone please offer some advise to stop me from waiting to scream being so fed up etc

it is so unfair why do some people get it so easy no planning no effort baby just appears is born and life is fine and so many other have a loss have to wait and try for years

getting over it and just waiting to be able to have a baby

My advice to you counting days is scream let it out and it is a natural reaction that you are feeling I went through exactly the same thing but I will be honest I am blessed with 2 children I have been trying to have a 3rd for two years I fell pg in Dec but M/C in Feb and am still trying to ttc to complete my family and not one day goes by I don't think about it and it's been 3 months tomorrow best of luck counting days I wish you well in your ttc with your forever baby.

[Sunny Love]

Hey all,

Still here, hi to the newbies -you'll find the support that you need here.

Im still waiting on RB. Still BFN. Maybe its too early, maybe im not even pregnant. Just wish I knew what was going on and things would hurry up. The days before a period feel like a waste.

[Greenslw]

I got some right lower obdo stabbing pains when I got up...... be good pain. Oh i'm so scared. Any thoughts?

Still really ill feeling, sore Boobs and bit forgetful although I'm getting a better handle on it. DP and I for the first time since transfer last night. Didn't worry me last time but this time..... oh I'm a mess already

Any thoughts?!?!?

[Counting Days]

well at least one thing better today
I got a job after 5 months of driving the couch and watching far to much Dr Phil I have now found a job

I went to the agency at 2pm then the client at 3pm by 4:30 I was employed
no waiting on 2nd interviews no stuffing around I like her she liked me really easy the way a lot more things should be

and the other funny think that also happened today I was thinking about purchasing a test kit on the way home but didn't but when I got home my husband said he had a present in a box

when a opened the box what was in it a test kit so lets hope for a BFP tonight

i tested the other day with the last strip but it was to early hope things are cooked a little more but AF is not due until 15th so should be ok now

[Counting Days]

well at least one thing better today
I got a job after 5 months of driving the couch and watching far to much Dr Phil I have now found a job

I went to the agency at 2pm then the client at 3pm by 4:30 I was employed
no waiting on 2nd interviews no stuffing around I like her she liked me really easy the way a lot more things should be

and the other funny think that also happened today I was thinking about purchasing a test kit on the way home but didn't but when I got home my husband said he had a present in a box

when a opened the box what was in it a test kit so lets hope for a BFP tonight

i tested the other day with the last strip but it was to early hope things are cooked a little more but AF is not due until 15th so should be ok now

[Cherished]

[B]Question ladies - do any of you take baby aspirin?

Sorry Milly I don't,not sure that I would try it either? Sorry I'm not much help!

[charm]

Counting days for a bfp for you goodluck.

[milly5]

Thanks Smallfryplus and Cherished for your responses.

The reason I asked is that a friend of mine who underwent IVF was prescribed it as it assists with implantation, and can also reduce the risk of miscarriage. But it has to be baby aspirin (81mg max) as the adult dose is too strong and has harmful side effects in pg.

After hearing about it, I did some internet searching and found that it is thought to help the blood flow to the foetus and may assist in preventing a m/c as it stops clotting in the placenta and increases the blood flow to the womb; and because of the increased blood flow it can also help with conception.

It seems to be more widely used overseas than here though, that's why I was wondering if anyone here used it.

[ferrals5]

morning ladies

I am feeling good today getting closer to my testing day i hate the wait i'm trying to stay busy and not think about it (YEH RIGHT IMPOSSIBLE) my temp is still up so that's good.

coco1411- yeh! not long for you either.

milly5-I have no clue on baby asprin in pregnancy sorry.

smallfryplus-AWW! sorry your feeling grumpy and it's good your cycle is back to normal and keep convincing yourself if that helps go for it i am the same i also try to convince those around me which is'nt as easy LOL.

charm-it will happen for you.

sunny09-im crossing my fingers RB dosn't show and you hit the jackpot.

greenslw- sore boobs, baby brain ,lower pains it sounds good to me.

counting days-congrats on the job.

To anyone i missed sorry will catch up with you later.

[Sunny Love]

Thanx ferral4, right back at yousweetheart!

Not long now, please stay away RB........................

[Anila]

Thanks again for all the welcomes.

Well im doing a me post, i was almost in tears last night, and i just have to get it all out, i know i said i wasnt going to talk to hubby about dtd, and just see what happens, but i need answers, i want to get straight back into bd, i want my sticky bfp!!

So he was sitting on the lounge and i went over and hugged him, and just said casually, so have you thought about when you would like to ttc again, and he said, no not for a very long time, in my mind i was like wtf! So i said i was hoping we could get straight back into it, then i got up and went and sat on the other lounge, he got up and went to the computer and said something like, it was really hard for me, cant you respect that.
I do respect that is was hard for him, it was also hard for me too.

So feeling sad i went to the bed room to sulk, about 5 min later he came in and said o what r u doing in here, so i told him i came in to sulk.

He then says some stuff, and i said well how long do u think till you are ready, well, he went off his tree, saying im pressuring him, and he is the one who has to pick up the pieces, and he doesnt want this to happen again etc...

So im all upset, even if we wait, it could happen again, or it may not, im not getting any younger, so the later we wait the older i get, and as for picking up the pieces, um excuse me, but really there were not any pieces to pick up, most of my support came from bb, he barely spoke to me about it, and i had two days to deal with it, before the us had confimed it, and thats when he broke down, and i had to console him.

I am ready, i want to start asap, im the one who physically went through this, im the one, who feels guilty that my body could not hold on to the baby, im the one who should have the final say on when we ttc again.

Ok so that turned into a mini vent, sorry.
Its just not fair, ok it was an early loss, i had only know for a few weeks, but it doesnt make it that much easier, i did know, and i did start to make plans, and i was getting attatched.
I want my pregnancy back!!!!!