Hey everyone - don't mind laughing at me! I always laugh at myself, no matter what I think sometimes it comes across as inappropriate, but it's my coping mechanism. I hope it doesn't make anyone feel uncomfortable.
Even as I was going in to theatre for my d & c, they asked if I had any questions, and I said "Well, there is one thing..." and then looked dead serious and said "...when can I have an enormous gin and tonic?" And everyone had a giggle.
Hey Kyra, I'm sorry you're feeling down. You should style your house the way I do mine - entirely second handedly. You know it's getting extreme when you paint a brand new table to make it look old
We don't have a car. It's as much because we don't need it as anything.
We rent by choice. We might buy down the track, but for now it doesn't suit us.
A lot of people who "have it all" also have a lot of debt. Just embrace what you do have; enjoy it, and don't worry about other stuff. Be proud of how much you can do with not much.
When we got married, we asked for no presents. (only donations to charity) My mum's best friend couldn't understand this - when the sum total of our living room furniture was $100 at garage sales, home made and inherited stuff and a couch swapped for a six pack. Meanwhile, her nephew, who married at 40 and had a house full of everything new, had a registry for everything. he just wanted more.
Also, not buying new stuff is SO much better for the planet. Make do with what already exists, and it means far less toxic sludge being released onto the planet that YOUR children will have to grow up on. You're actually giving them a better start by not buying brand new.
I don't know, maybe it's just ramble. But please don't feel down about "stuff"
I thik when it comes down to it, its not really stuff that gets me down.. Its really more like a status thing like.. I get afraid people will se my life and think "wow what a loser"
Thanks heaps tho yeh al our furniture is second hand too We found our coffee table on the side of the rd with a "you want it, take it" sign on it lol, I bought our tv off a neighbour for i think 60 bucks.. Mum gave me the tv stand, And we bought our table from DH's workmate who was getting a new one. all the other stuff is either from lifeline or garage sales..
The only thing we bought new was our couch, and DS has already proven how dumb that was by drawing on it in ballpoint pen. mind you Ive come to like it cuz its like I will have two yr old boo on my couch forever
The thing about the car is.. we really do kinda need it.. Our suburb isnt counrty but it is sortof spread out and its a long walk back from the shops loaded up with groceries and now DS wants to walk its even harder.
I feel heaps better tho.. And i usualy do.. I just sometimes get down a lil bit aboutit when i see everyone else getting so far ahead.. but ur right.. they never stop wanting more.
isnt it funny how one person can make you feel so much better thank god for this forum and all the loverly ladies in here
I was a BBer before the m/c - I don't know how other people do it. I just hopped straight on here and found everything I needed. I give BB full credit for my emotional health.
Hey, if you get the chance, read a book called "Affluenza" by Clive Hamilton. It's wordy, and hard slog on your brain, but it will change the way you think about "stuff" forever.
And, really, don't worry about what people think. Honestly, if they're worried about what stuff you have, THEY are the loser.
Kyrawolfe - I think a lot of the people out there that seem to have everything usually are very unhappy. (And have a huge amount of debt) You have family and love. Things are just things. They are replaceable. We live in a small 2 bedroom granny flat on my MIL's property (20mts from her house). Im sure people think we are losers for not moving into our own place once we got married. Everyone asked where we were going to live, were we going to build a new house? But we live rent free so why move til we have to.
Sunbeam - We will miss you while you take a break. Sorry a/f turned up for you and that you cant try this month. A break will probably be a good thing. You will return refreshed and happy and with a bfp!!
Sunbeam - I'm so sorry things haven't worked out this month. Sometimes it all does seem so overwhelming.
Kyra - I am one of five kids and I find I constantly compare my life to the other four. Then the other day I happened to find out what the mortgage was that one of them had and I just about fell over, hers was double what mine is! I stopped feeling envious.
Maddison - if anybody thought you were losers, they're just trying to console themselves, because they're not as lucky as you! What a great situation to be in!
I know some people see the life we live, and don't quite "get" it. We travel a lot (6 or so interstate trips every year, and usually an international one too) btu we actually sacrifice a bit to be able to do it. I cook cheaply, we furnish our house cheaply, I live in 2nd hand clothes
You know what expense I really resent? Condoms. AND I hate using them - I feel like such a kid! I am a grown up, in a monogamous relationship, where we madly want a child, but are forced into using them because of this situation. I fricken hate it! I hate it so much!
The codeine I took is making me feel SO woozy. Apologies for anything too random...
I think sometimes it comes across as inappropriate, but it's my coping mechanism. I hope it doesn't make anyone feel uncomfortable.
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