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Thread: Trying to Conceive after Miscarriage or Loss Feb 2007

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    Morning girls,

    Sarah - sorry about your tooth. Ouch!

    missbelinda - make sure you hang around anyway until you are ready to TTC again!

    SP - I totally understand how you feel about your SIL and not wanting to visit. When my SIL had their first bub 6 wks after my first m/c, I was terrified about going to visit them in hosp, as I didn't know what my reaction was going to be and the whole family were there. It turned out ok (I surprised even myself), but I had had a lot longer than you to come to term with things. Don't push yourself - I am sure she understands, and you will visit them when you are ready. I am thinking of you as I know this is a really difficult time



    Sharon -

    Bek - It is only supposed to take 4 - 6 wks to get AF back - my body just normally has long cycles, so it was a bit longer for me. I am sure you won't have to wait that long.

    Well, I am not doing so well atm. Went to the ILs for dinner last night and it all just got too much. My BIL and SIL had a boy, the first grandchild, just 6 weeks after my first m/c (and 6 weeks before my second), so now all family get-togethers involve the entire family (2 parents, 4 kids plus partners, and a visiting aunt) getting clucky and cooing over a baby all night. Now, I know that it SHOULD be like this - of course they should be enjoying a new addition to the family but sometimes it just all gets a bit much for me. Luckily it is a 3 storey house and DH and FIL were upstairs in the study and everyone else was in the middle level, so I managed to escape to the ground floor where I balled my eyes out in the bathroom for half an hour, and DH and FIL thought I was with everyone else, and everyone else thought I was with DH and FIL, so I don't think anyone noticed. It seems to be getting worse, not easier, I wasn't this bad before, but it is all just getting on top of me, and I am so sick of being brave all the time and putting on a happy face when everything is falling apart.

    I have an appointment with my counsellor tomorrow, so hopefully that will help. The trouble I have is that hardly anyone knows about the second m/c- I found most people so unsupportive the first time that I didn't see the point in telling them about the second. The only few people who know are our parents and a couple of friends that we found a great help the first time. So I feel like I am pretty much on my own (apart from you guys of course!!). I think that makes it even harder.

    Also, I had a dream last night that my little sis announced she was accidentally pg, and she told me this while sipping down strong alcoholic beverages - I was so angry!! But it was only a dream...

    Hi to everyone else - sorry to ramble on for so long...

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    I lost my baby early this year what a way to bring in the new year. I am ready and want it so bad to be pregnant again I think about my baby everyday I was five months pregnant and didnt have a clue that I was. I often blame myself for not knowing would that made a difference. I think about why did it happen to me am I a bad person I already have two boys ages 9 and 10. Its hard and I am also afraid of what might happen all I can do is pray and ask God to make everything alright so I can have a healthy baby. I dont know why I miscarried you never think something like this would happen to you until it do.
    Sorry for your lost Nikilove

    I'm not really ttc yet (MC was 2 1/2 weeks ago), I guess it's sensible to wait for at least one AF. But, if it happens before then I certainly wouldn't say no.

    But I thought I'd pop in to say hello, a big 'hi' and lots of to the girls I already know, and looking forward to getting to know those of you I've not met before. I wish we could have met under happier circumstances.

    Immediately after my MC all I wanted was to be pregnant again, I think I thought that would 'fix' everything. Now I feel that I want at least a bit more time to grieve for the baby we lost. Although I am also open to getting pg again soon. It's a very confusing time, I don't really know what to do. Do any of you feel confused about ttc again after your miscarriages?

    Anyway, I wish all of you the very best of luck and hope that you all get your bfps very soon and have the healthy, happy babies you all deserve so very much.

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    Morning Ladies,

    Bun - HUGS. I know how you must have felt. Thanks so much for all the info you have given me over the last little while.

    Sharon - HUGS to you too. My DH is so ready for a BD marathon, he can't wait!!!!! He says this now but after the first few times he'll want a break.

    Belinda - Good on you for recoginising that you need a break. Please stick around. If I don't conceive by March I will be having a 3month break as well. I am going to stick around regardless.

    Sarah and Niki - Hi nice to meet you both.

    Niki - I really did not bleed at all, just a bit of spotting here and there. It has been 11 days since my D and C and I now feel like AF is coming.

    I have posted this in another thread already, but I feel like AF is coming. Last night I had strong cramps, heavier spotting, sore boobs, and today all the same but a wicked headaches as well. Oh yeah my temp dropped too.

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    Sharon, lol at waking dh with beeps my Dp was on early's so at work when it happened or there would have been a BIG what are you doing?? LOL.. Huge hugs also it is hard seeing your friends babies but they do understand and your friend showed that...

    Sorry Nikilove, it is hard but it's not your fault try not to blame yourself i know its hard took me a good 4-5 weeks b4 i stopped doing that... On the bleeding front mine stopped about a week or so then the occasional spot for a week or so...

    Bun Huge hugs matey must be hard i have friends with babies and every time i see them its hard i have all my friends coming over Sunday for lunch as my friends husband is having a head wetting for there daughter so us girls are getting together everyone that is coming except one has children and one is pg again so its going to be hard but they all understand as im sure your dh family understands...

    To all you lovely girls take each day as it comes this journey is hard and if your having a bad day cry dont feel bad that your crying its your right you have lost your beautiful babies and dont let anyone tell you you shouldnt cry and to move on because its not that simple....

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    Sp i dont know but when we lost our baby every show we watched there was either and m/c or mention of it, it drove us NUTS.......... Im going well just want to test lol but holding off dont want to waste them and get upset with a -ve when its still too early.. Im 10dpo to day so a few more days would be better to wait.... Im better around my friends now one of them i avoided for a few weeks cos the day i started bleeding she had told us she was expecting no2 and when she dropped me home i found out i was bleeding it was hard on her too cos she felt guilty and found it hard to know what to say.... Looking forward to catching up with them will be hard not to yell "I THINK IM PG" but i wont be telling anyone until after 12 weeks this time...

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    Jane - I have my fingers crossed that you get a BFP when you test.

    SP - I agree about how hard it is when everyone and everything around us is about babies or pregnancy. My best friend had a baby boy last month at the same hospital that I was admitted to, and I went to visit, and it was very surreal - the same nurses etc, but I figured I wanted a happy memory of the place to compensate my memories. But it was still very hard. Some days I just think about wanting to hold a newborn baby in my arms, and I can't remember the last time I did, it was probably 5yrs ago when my niece was born. My gf doesn't like other people touching her children because she has a germ phobia, so we weren't allowed to hold him. But it's probably just as well, because I would have started blubbering

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    Wow, lots of action in here today. Thanks to everyone who had their fingers crossed but AF arrived today so am a bit sad that we didn't catch the egg and will try harder this cycle. My temp took a nose dive this morning and she came at lunchtime. Just like you Niki, I am so ready and really want to be pregnant again. To answer your question, I only had spot bleeding for about a week after my D&C and the week after that, my libido was out of control LOL.

    Bun It's terrible that people were not supportive of your first miscarriage that it made you feel like you couldn't tell them the second time. My boss told my work team that I had a miscarriage when I was at home recovering and they were really good except one that just didn't acknowledge it which was really weird because she is always so over the top with everyone else. Another woman at my work brought her baby in a few weeks ago for cuddles and when she left the woman who didn't acknowlege it said to me "how does it make you feel?" and I was looking at her thinking "how do you think it makes me feel. It makes me feel like I should be 5 months pregnant" but instead I just smiled. I just don't get people sometimes.

    Janeo - fingers crossed for that BFP.

    Will catch up with everyone else soon. Have a lovely glass of wine waiting to help me get over AF arriving today.

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    Tinsel - sorry about AF arriving, but I hope you enjoy that glass of wine! Yeah, I really don't get people sometimes either. What a horrible thing to say! There was one woman at my work who I had a bit of a problem with too. I decided I didn't want anyone except my direct boss knowing what had happened. Everyone else just dropped the issue when I said I didn't want to talk about it, except her. Out of my friends, most do not have kids and a lot obviously did not understand what it feels like to go through something like this and expected me to be over it in like a day or two. I decided it would only hurt and not help to tell them about the second one. The trouble is, now everytime I see someone and they ask what has been happening, I have nothing to say. The major thing in my life right now is trying to cope with depression, having copious amounts of blood taken, waiting for psych and specialist appointments, worrying about ever having a family and trying not to cry 24 hours a day. Thus, I really don't have much to say to anyone, except you guys.

    Jane - I see pg women everywhere too, and it's so hard. What I have seen a lot lately that has really made me mad is pg people smoking or eating things I know they should NOT be eating. Grrr...

    SP - yes, I have found the counsellor helpful, but have only seen her once. Mine specialises in this kind of thing too. I hope you find it helpful too. I am glad your DH told his sis about your m/c, at least it is out there now and I am sure she will understand how you are feeling.

    Niki- I am so sorry to hear about your baby. Please don't blame yourself sweetie, you did nothing wrong. Try to take it easy and give yourself some time to grieve, and remember we are all here for you. Yes, most of us feel confused about TTC again after a m/c, it is perfectly normal and we all understand the feeling.

    Have a great weekend all.

    Love Bun xx

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    Hi all

    Just thought I would come in here as I know many of you go through a lot of OPKs. I have 30 OPK's that expire in Apr 2007 that I would like to give away. I have split them into 6 lots of 5 OPK's. Just email me your name and address and I will pop them in the mail to you straight away - so you should get them Tuesday/Wednesday. My email is [email protected]

    I rather give them to you guys then let them go to waste, and hope they help bring a BFP your way!

    ETA: They are Ovunow tests, and I will include a copy of the instruction sheet as well.

    Cheers
    Belinda

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    Thats really sweet Belinda i dont need any but just wanted say how nice that was of you..... I really hope that you will be back on the ttc journey soon im sure you will know when you are ready and your dream will come true...

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    Hi Everyone,
    Welcome to all you new girls. I'm sorry for your losses but you are in the best place for support.
    Sorry I haven't been around for a while but I haven't had access to a pc as mine was stolen 2 weeks ago from a repair shop and I have to use the in laws when I get a chance.
    Anyway I'm on day 24 today and have nothing to report atm. However I'm feeling a bit down as its coming up to my 2nd angels 1st anniversary and I was really hoping to be pregnant before this.
    I'm sorry for no personals at the moment but I do promise to catch up with you all when I get a computer.
    I hope everyone is well.

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    Ill been thinking of you Mako, pity about your pc being stolen.. Ill be thinking of you during this hard time....

    Well af arrived today not totally devastated YET!! At least i have had one now its been 10weeks since d & c and i hadnt had one yet... So back into temping and ttc for another month.....

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    Bugger Jane - stupid damm witch. I'm sorry darl. Fingers crossed for this month..xxxx

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    I KNOW COW!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! !!!!! Really annoyed now trying to not let it get too me but sooooo hard.... COW COW COW.................

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    Good morning, lovelies! We're heading for a scorcher today, so happy to stay inside and near my computer
    Belinda, sorry to read that you're taking a break although I completely understand what you mean about the fear of having to go through the heartache again - I just was hoping to be sharing a belly buddies thread with you again soon. Although, thinking about it, the chances of me beating you there even with you having a break are feeling increasingly slim. Anyway, hope you enjoy the break from the stress of TTC and get back to BD for the fun of it!
    Mako, that's so bad about your PC being pinched! I have so much personal stuff on mine, I'd die a thousand deaths! Thinking of you coming up to your angel's anniversary
    Tinsel, sorry that AF has arrived for you, but LOL at your libido being in overdrive! And I can't believe how tactless people can be! That woman must have had a compassion bypass somewhere along the way. Good luck this cycle and I hope you enjoyed that glass of wine (or three).
    *hugs* *hugs* *hugs* for you, Bun. I hope that the counselling starts to ease things for you. I wish I could lift some of that sadness for you.
    Saltprincess, hope you're feeling better now and it's good that your DH was able to tell your SIL and her husband what you're going through so that they can understand you not being there. Thinking of you, too.
    Jane, good luck for this cycle - what a long time you've had to wait for AF to show properly! Fingers crossed for you for March!!
    Bekz, sounds like you're in for a nasty visit from AF. Hope your headache eases off and that you're feeling better really soon.
    Sarah, I had an abcess under my back molar late last year and the antibiotics helped really quickly, so hope the pain has eased for you. Bummer about having to lose the tooth, though, *hugs* for you.
    Sharon19270, those lunches (and dinners) can be really hard. I lost it last year during drinks at a friend's place with a group of women from work and I haven't been game to have more than one or two drinks since then as it appears I turn into a sad sop these days. Hope your DH is up for a BD fest when he returns, maybe a holiday away would do the trick?
    *Hugs* nikilove, yes, it's a confusing emotional time straight after m/c and those hormones seem to take their time to regulate themselves for us. Good luck for your TTC journey.
    Sorry if I've missed anyone and I'd like to say a big hello and *waves* to Shan and everyone else who pops into see how we're going! I'm 7 DPO and no symptoms so not very hopeful. And I may not to get to sneak in as many tests at the moment as there's another teacher sharing with me until her DH can move down and then they're going to a teacher house about 40 minutes away. And I'm going to be away much of next week taking an excursion to Sydney and then some professional development later in the week with an overnight stay and sharing a family suite with three other teachers. So I might not even be able to temp!! And no BB either. How will I cope?! lol

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    Mako - that's a real **** about your computer! So inconvenient too. I'll be thinking of you on the 7th. I hope a BFP is around the corner for you.

    Jane - sorry af turned up I hope you don't let it get to you, I know you have the strength.

    Kerry - you had better find a way to test when the time comes, just to put us out of our misery hehe. you never know what will hapen, we may still end up as belly buddies again

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    Hello

    Mako - Hi and all the best for the 7th. Hugs.

    Jane - Sorry to hear about AF, but at least your cycles have started now and you can do some strategic bding.

    Kerry - Enjoy your time away with work. Hopefully you can sneak in a test some where. Goodluck.


    Bun and SP - Good on both of you for seeking some counselling. Let us know how you both go with it all.

    Hi to everyone else.

    Well AF has not shown up yet (false alarm), I still have sore boobs, cramps, headaches and now I have really bad PMT!!!!! I am so cranky atm. I have started taking Vitex again so hopefully all these symptoms will go away soon.

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    Hi all
    hope everyone is having a great weekend (despite that witch showing up Jane)
    Yep I reckon having a M/C just attracts pg bellies and babies like a magnet I know when I m/c it seemed like everywhere I went there were babies and pg women and all I wanted to do was RUN AWAY
    My tooth is still sore - its my back molar too! so it wont show when it gets pulled I just cant justify $1200 or more to get it properly fixed
    Fingers crossed Bek that its not af but that you are headed for a bfp

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