Em - dont ever feel like we want you to stop "going on" about it.. it is a really important part of healing. I have found talking to people.. online and in real life.. very healing. Even people who don't know about or have never had a m/c... sounds stupid but educating them a little about it all has somehow made me feel good... like if, god forbid, they ever have to go through it then they will know that it is ok to talk about and share your grief.
When I had my first i had never met ANYONE who had had a m/c... then when I had my 2nd it was very similar.. but as you talk to people out and about they will say "oh yeah, I had one of those" or "my sister had one of them" or "my mum had a few of those" - for some reason it seems taboo to talk about at the time ?????????
but anyway, i am getting side tracked with what i wanted to say... here you have a wonderful group of people who know exactly what you mean and who will not judge you or ever wish you to stop discussing.. so please continue - i know how much it can help

oh, also it took 5wks to the day for my af to return.. when I had it done the doc said between 4 to 8wks.. i was so scared it was going to be 8 but was lucky to only have 5, which ended up being my normal cycle after that.

an in terms of testing.. they told me there were going to test the "products of conception" but i didn't ever find out the results.... makes me wonder though. I may have to ask at my next appointment. I think it is fairly normal practice.

I know exactly what you mean about it all seeming like a bad dream.. some days I just stop and think ... am I or aren't I.. was I ever??? it all just seems so unreal at times - that one can be pregnant and expecting and planning for a little one and then you end up standing there with nothing and wondering what the hell happened. I hope it gets better too! for all of us!

Hannah, Jen and Shortcake.. thanks so much for the well wishes. I am still having spotting on and off - daily but not full on spotting all day iykwim. I guess I am still holding onto that tiny bit of hope but we will have to wait and see. 12dpo tomorrow and at this stage I am having no desire to test.. i am hoping to make it to Sunday/Monday if no AF arrives.


Babymiracles - woohoo and congratulations.