megsmum - i forgot to say happy birthday, so happy birthday and i hope that you had a wondeful day!
coco - i know what you are going through, although we never got to see our baby on the screen before i miscarried. i am so sorry. you are having the same questions that i had, i didnt do that tablets option and the bleeding from the miscarriage lasted for a painful 7 days. i have never quiet felt pain like it. we also asked when is ok to try again, everyone has a different opinion. we spoke to a midwife who basically said, its more mental than physical if the miscarriage has done what it is meant to. in saying that, we agreed to just see what happened after the m/c but i kinda of regret that now. we are 8 weeks down the track, no af and no pregnancy! so i have no idea what is going on with my body. i think having a cycle is the way to go just so you know where you are at! but its all down to how you feel. good luck with whatever you decide x
Eliza - Hugs again. If you want to start charting again you can, I believe you just start with CD1 being the first day of bleeding (for me CD1 was the day of the D&C). I found it good in a way (but depressing as well) to get charting again as I could see my temps gradually falling back to pre O levels and then when I Oed again finally I knew when to expect AF back. We didn't try that cycle, but at least I knew what was going on KWIM? We were told to wait one cycle before trying again, but there is so much different advice on that one, I think if you feel ready to try again I would. All the best.
kararaz - Thanks for the birthday wishes! Sounds really strange to me getting the neg BT and pos HPT, but HPTs are not the most reliable test in the world unfortunately. But having said that, your symptoms do sound good too. Not much help I know really - sorry! But I do think it is a good move seeing a specialist, GPs try their best but in the end they just can't know it all I guess. Good luck with it all.
Jen - Yay for giving youself a cover line LOL I had a peek at your chart and think you are probably right too, although maybe the next 2 days are possibilities too? But looks like you have covered your bases so to speak so hopefully this could be the one! Don't worry, I'm a bit like plc, could never leave here totally - I just feel so comfortable here after all this time. But hoping that we will be fishy preggie buddies soon, along with babymiracles! Bummer about your DS hope he recovers quickly. Can you take him to the drs with you at all? Maybe a silly question, I know how much DD whinges about coming to the drs with me!
chappas - Sorry to hear about the MS and the UTI. Hope the antibiotics clear the UTI up fast, and I guess at least the MS is reassuring - was to me! GL for your scan in 2 weeks
Julia - Don't think you sound mean at all. You are just protecting yourself just in case someone who doesn't understand makes the wrong comment, I've lost count of how many time it's happened to me. It is hard when you are coping with m/c haiving to deal with pregnancy announcements.
boble - Sorry AF is not treating you kindly I hope the cramps ease up soon. I charted again straight away, gave me a sense of doing something KWIM? But can understand the feelings of needing to take it easy too - GL with whatever you decide.
Abbey B - GL for this month! I didn't feel anything until well after my BFP, so hang in there, you are still in with a chance if AF has not shown.
Mel - Strange about those cramps, hope they do turn out to be O for you with a BFP at the end of it!
plc - Thanks hun, hope all is well with you too!
HannahD - Glad you and DH had a nice time at the beach, sounds like a beautiful way to farewell your angel So happy that you feel more at peace too and hoping that things stay that way for you.
Sending a big hello also to everyone that I have missed today, hope you are all well xx
Eliza sweetie - I am so sorry to see that things didn't work out - I was praying for you yesterday. You found the best forum to join though - the ladies here are just so supportive and have helped me through a very difficult six months. I still cannot leave totally so pop in from time to time. Take time to grieve and heal, and I am sure you will be holding a forever baby soon. I also had a D&C so not sure about the whole tablet thing
AFM: My body is being rather naughty - a bit more brown CM and increased CM this morning - praying all is okay - it has decreased again this afternoon so praying it is nothing. Think I will take up OB on offer of an extra appt this friday for another scan.
to everyone - I am meant to be working so will come back another time for persies :hugs: to everyone.
Oh and sorry about grey hairs Jen - don't worry I have plenty of them too - and I am sure just got another handful of them in last two weeks ready for my 38th birthday this week - arghhhh
coco- this is a wonderful group whos support has helped me more than what many would think. I miss you from our little group already. hang in there.
AFM - after an extemely anxious 3 week wait i had a csan with my ob today and its all looking good. heartrate at 141 bpm. hard to believe.
Thankyou so much for all the support you have given me, I lurk in here still often silently cheering you all on. I just pray you all get to experience a BFP real soon. Lots of love.
Jen - Have added a ticker just for you! Thinking about going back to charting but not sure yet. Got a bit obsessed last time - more than I am now!
erybery - So glad your scan went well!
babymiracles - Your body is being mean, scaring you like this If having another scan on Friday makes you feel better and eases your anxiety go for it!
Eliza - I'm so sorry for your loss I didn't need to take any tablets or have a D&C after my m/c so I can't help but I'm sure someone else here can. There is no right or wrong time to start again (provided your Dr gives the ok). It's a personal choice and only you will know when you are ready. Best of luck on your TTC journey.
Big hi to everyone else. Sorry for the short post. Wishing this back pain would go away!
Jen - Sorry to hear DS has to have tonsils out hope he has a quick recovery. you get that bfp this month.
Coco - So sorry to hear of your loss, know what the pain of seeing that scan is like. I too was given a tablet followed by pessary to finish my m/c. I went into hosp 48 hs after tablet and was given pessary,was kept in overnght just to check bleeding. We decided to wait for 3 months to ttc again but everyone feels different and you will know whats best for you. Hope this is of some help.
Megsmum - Thanks, I do find the m/s a bit reassuring.
Babymiracles- Think you are doing the right thing going for another scan, at least to put your mind at ease.
coco-- I'm so very sorry for your loss! Oh, and I so know what you mean about the screen....seeing my little angel on the screen without a heartbeat was something I've always wished I had never seen! I'll never forget it... You're among friends that understand, so please feel free to get out, share, or vent any feelings you're struggling with at the moment. I'm not sure about your tablet question--the be honest with you, I was never offered that option, and didn't even know there was a pill to help.
megsmum--Saw your 1st post in the PAML!! Congrats! Glad you'll be hanging around, tho!
babymiracles--Aren't you supposed to be resting, missy? I think that an early scan is a great idea--I'm sure everything will be just fine, but I know how scary it can be. Take care, hon, and enjoy your b-day tomorrow!!
Gotta go pick DS up from school early for his pre-op appt. Sorry, will have to finish the last couple persies later!
Hey all
I have been MIA in action for a little while....hiding in hospital (6 days, 3 nil by mouth)as I had retained products (TMI SORRY).
They let me out last night... yes I actually did fell like dancing as I just want to feel normal again....I still have retained products but not as much so they are hoping i can do the rest myself,,,,but the down side is that I am now getting more pain back and starting to cramp really bad so i dare say i will be back in hosp by the weekend for the 2nd D&C!!!!!!!!!!!!! I AM SO ANGRY AT MY BODY AT THE MOMENT!!!
DH has had mixed feelings about tryingin again...as I was in maternity, he would see newborn babies being carreid around and he was telling me thats what he wanted and then he would look at me and say no don't want anymore just want you home and to be my wife forever and not have to go trhough this again........He has still stoped smoking!!!!!!
I have asked him to let me have a puppy .. but DH has firmly said NO...I just want to mother something...I am sure you all understand.
Oh Oh......... For those TTC already apparently if you are taking Clomid / other form of O drug watch out how much folate you are taking as my ob informed me in hospital that there has been studies and they have found there is an increase of twins!!!! For those wanting twins and taking or not tkaing also be careful as too much folate also has negative affects.... sort of damned if we do or damned if we don't aren't we!!!!
COCO: I fully understand how you feel about seeing your little one on the ultrasound. I have pictures from my first scan ( i haven't looked at them since our sad news) and then seeing our baby so still and lifeless is something I will never forget...It makes me question why even more as it looked so perfect with its little nose / lip profile and little toes and fingers. I kept yelling indise my head for it to please move but unfortunately it had gone 2 dasy before.
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: need more colour!!!!!!!!!!!!!
erybery--Congrats on a great scan! Gotta love that little beating away!
Mel--Look who's sporting a new ticker! And just for me? Aww, shucks, you're making me blush! Hope your get some relief from your back pain! *hugs*
plc--Oh, P, I just got your card in the mail! Thanks so much--what a beautiful picture of April! What a great surprise to see an unexpected letter from you in my mailbox! It really made my day!
mrzbaby--I'm sorry to hear you've been in the hospital! As if everything you've been thru hasn't been bad enough, now you have to deal with all this! I'm really sorry, hon! Hope things get better for you quick, and you don't need the 2nd D&C!
Im not big on the personals, but i do follow your stories and I love that we can support eachother here
It is almost 48 hrs after taking the first course of tablets and my first day alone and my first shift back at work in an hour and I am feeling awfully fragile emotionaly. Really. You know that feeling just before you cry, the heaving chest or heavy shallow breaths and the ache you get? I have had that all day, I cried once looking at an article about miscarriages and hospitals lack of bedside manner, almost cried at Target while buying super sized pads after a lady with a newborn baby walked past me, I felt like I was going to faint from the painkillers walking through Myer buying my sister's birthday present.
I don't know how Im going to cope tonight at work, I work in a restaurant and we always get some kiddies in and Ive had 4-5 days off so people will be asking questions, alot of the girls know but im not sure how to shake off the sorry's and stuff.
How are the rest of you handling everything? Are there ways you tend to cope? Even Sex & The City and M&M's aren't helping.
coco--Sounds like you could really use a I'm sorry you're feeling so fragile at the moment, but it's not been that long, there's really no way that you could possibly be "over it" (not that you'll ever be over it, but the initial darkness is what I'm referring to). I so totally know that feeling... the ache that brings on the sobs from deep down that make it hard to breathe... or like your heart is stuck in your throat... Having a m/c is devastating, especially in the early days.
I work at my DS's school, and I sent a letter in advance telling them what happened, and that I just couldn't deal with the questions and apologies. Most of them have never mentioned it to this day, almost a year later, unless I happen to bring it up. There will be a day when you'll be able to do the same... if only to make people more aware of m/c. Or even in the sad event that you have to comfort someone else going thru the same tragedy.
Just try to allow yourself to feel whatever you need to feel. Things will get better, I promise.... just take it one day at a time, that's all you can do. Some days will be better than others, and you'll get thru it, just don't push yourself too hard. Good luck tonight at work... I'm thinking of you and saying for you!
Hi, thought id come in and introduce myself. I have DD 7 and DS 3 and had a missed m/c in Jan this year. I had terrible m/s and took maxilon which a now know I have an allergic reaction to. I went to hospital when I was 8 weeksand they gave me zofran for the sickness. The Dr did an u/s and there was bubs, heart beating away.
By the end of that week (Christmas day/boxing day) my m/s was all but gone and I felt pretty fantastic. By 12 weeks I was stressing abit thinking something was wrong. My bbs hadnt got bigger, m/s had stopped and I could still wear my jeans. DH,DD and I went for our 12 week scan only to see the same peanut shape but no heartbeat. I was so sad even though deep down I knew something was wron weeks before. Did anyone else get the feeling something had happened?
I had a D&C the following week, bled for a few days then got an infection which has since cleared. I got my first AF last week that lasted for 3 days. As I played netball last night I had a bit more bright red blood so maybe I overdid it.
I still chat to the girls in my belly buddies group, I made some great friendships there and didnt think they needed to end just cause I wasnt pregnant anymore.
Now we are thinking about TTC again. If I dont fall pregnant in this next cycle, then we will wait til June. We are picky as to when bubs will be born!
Anyway, that is a bit about me hope you "enjoyed" reading my book.
ubba--I'm sorry for your recent loss, thanks for sharing your story with us! I know, for me, just sitting down and typing it out helped begin the healing process. It's hard to find the words at such a time, when you're feeling so raw and everything is so painful... so I hope it has helped you in some way! Know that other women are gaining strength just by your post! Wishing you lots of luck on your TTC journey!
Coco - Sorry for your loss. Welcome and hope your stay is short. I have only even m/c naturally, so I can't provide any words of wisdom.
Babymiracles - Our bodies are very naughty indeed. But I think it is just keeping everything nice for bubs.
erybery - Thanks for dropping in! I hope all is well for you & bubs.
chappas - Hope the antibiotics clear the UTI and GL for your scan in 2 week
Mel - TTC is so confusing at times...
I'll have to pop back as DD is seeking my attention...
I just wanted to say that I understand entirely how you are feeling. I only went back to work a couple of weeks ago and that was after 4 months off. I lost my little girl at 23 weeks in September 08. I work in a women's gym so not only was it difficult for me to see all the girls (who are wonderful but you know... all the "sorry's" etc... ) but I also see pregnant girls all the time working out. My heart STILL sinks into my chest for just a second when I see them.
I hate this feeling - its really getting to me again. Sometimes I think I am dealing with things really well and then all it takes is a little things and I'm back on the angry path. And I'm not sure about the other girls in here but I have flash backs of everything. And I shake my head or close my eyes so they go away again. Guess I'm suppressing the awful memories of it all.
Anyhow, I guess you just have to take things one day at a time. And I have found that every occasion I have been anxious to go to, has always been better and easier than I expected in my mind. I hope your first day back at work was better than you expected it to be.
Keep writing in here - every time you do it always feels easier.
to coco and ubba ... i hope life gets a little easier for you soon!
as for me ... still no af, i just worked out its been 8 weeks and 1 day! if its coming, i wish it would just come! i cant understand that it could take so long, when i miscarried so early and everything come away naturally and as it should. i have also had two positive stick readings, but along with that two negative stick readings (different brand) and 2 negative bloodtests. i just cant help feeling that i am pregnant! its happened 3 times before, surely i know my body. but how can a bloodtest lie?
hugs to all the other expectant mums and the mums ttc xx
5 days til i can test and i'm still not postitive anything has happened.... again My BB's are kinda tender but nothing to ouchy. I've also had this tugging sensation on my cervix, like it is being pulled up into my uterus (Sorry tmi) anyone else had this kind of sensation?
I'm still ing that i get a BFP this month but im dont think i will. I wish that concieving was as easy as everything else seems to be, i feel like we've been trying to get pregnant forever...
so hopefully this could be the one! Don't worry, I'm a bit like plc, could never leave here totally - I just feel so comfortable here after all this time. But hoping that we will be fishy preggie buddies soon, along with babymiracles! Bummer about your DS
hope he recovers quickly. Can you take him to the drs with you at all? Maybe a silly question, I know how much DD whinges about coming to the drs with me!
Don't think you sound mean at all. You are just protecting yourself just in case someone who doesn't understand makes the wrong comment, I've lost count of how many time it's happened to me. It is hard when you are coping with m/c haiving to deal with pregnancy announcements.
- I am so sorry to see that things didn't work out - I was praying for you yesterday. You found the best forum to join though - the ladies here are just so supportive and have helped me through a very difficult six months. I still cannot leave totally so pop in from time to time. Take time to grieve and heal, and I am sure you will be holding a forever baby soon. I also had a D&C so not sure about the whole tablet thing
to everyone - I am meant to be working so will come back another time for persies :hugs: to everyone.
So glad your scan went well!
you get that bfp this month.
I'm so very sorry for your loss! Oh, and I so know what you mean about the screen....seeing my little angel on the screen without a heartbeat was something I've always wished I had never seen! I'll never forget it... 
... yes I actually did fell like dancing as I just want to feel normal again....I still have retained products but not as much so they are hoping i can do the rest myself,,,,but the down side is that I am now getting more pain back and starting to cramp really bad so i dare say i will be back in hosp by the weekend for the 
2nd D&C!!!!!!!!!!!!! I AM SO ANGRY AT MY BODY AT THE MOMENT!!!
beating away!
And just for me? Aww, shucks, you're making me blush! 
Hope your get some relief from your back pain! *hugs*
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