thread: Trying to conceive after Miscarriage or Loss May 2009

  1. #253
    Registered User

    May 2009
    Bendigo, VIC
    190

    Maddi is fine

    My shop has maternity clothing and lingerie. 10G is a hard size cos you will most likely get bigger. If you put on a bit of weight too you will probably be able to get away with wearing a size 12FF or G. When you go up a size, you go down a cup size. Gives you a lot more options. Does that make sense??

  2. #254
    Registered User

    Jun 2008
    Cardiff Heights
    856

    Yeah I know that trick, but unfortuneately my boobs need the holding up haha

    I guess Im just going to have to...I dont know deal with that problem if I come to it.

    Hope everyone is going well! Im going to go chill out a bit before work.

  3. #255

    Apr 2009
    central coast
    2,298

    Hi ladies that was the longest day ever i got home to see MY DH had finished the last lot of unpacking (god i love him) he even hung to picture frames then i went up stairs to have a shower and he had set up all abbi's baby furniture and made a gorgeous nursery he said abbi wont mind the next baby using her things it was hard seeing it but it's like a new start and abbi will be watching over us and i hope she helps her little sister or brother find their way to us.
    Anyway some percies.

    Greenslw-i'm happy everything is looking good for you high progesterone level's and sick sound great to me don't stress over tomorrow you will be fine.

    Coco-BD for piece of mind cause you will say to yourself later i should have done it or just BD for the fun of it (he he) and i am petrified of getting pregnant again it will be my 7th pregnancy but 5th baby i never had to consider genetic faults before now it scares the hell out of me.

    Anila- i know it is hard to part with anything that connect's you to your baby i have about 30 ultrasounds from 12 week's until the day before we had to go into hosptial to have our girl and that was at 19 weeks 4 days and we also have dvds of her aswell and im not sure what to do with them all i made up albums for my 3 boy's and books but with abbi i have made a memorial cupboard with her ashes photo's and coffin plaque footprint's and the gorgeous teddy we had made for her and a beautiful poem we had framed but the ultasounds and all the doctors reports even the autopsy report i have and i cant part with any of it but not sure what to do with them yet.

    Smallfry-kids always seem to say the wrong things at the wrong time but they are oblivious as to how it affects us and it must be awlful seeing you ex with a new baby it's bad enough seeing my sister inlaw pregnant if it were my ex or hubbys ex it woul kill me.

    Sunbeam-i hope you and your donor daddy got the right day when DH and i BD i lay with my butt on a pillow for 20 minutes also it is the longest 20 minutes ever

    Maddison- welcome the more the merrier and the more support to each other.

    Poppy-also welcome and i hope we can all help each other on our TTC journey.

    To the other ladies i missed i will get to you it's dinner time yum yum!

  4. #256
    Registered User

    Apr 2009
    Melbourne
    533

    you gals ROCK!

    It's a long one... brace yourself... seems there's lots of hugs going around too so I'll start with and a big because I can't post as many hugs are are needed tonight.

    Maddison think we're all like that - afraid that next time will result the same as last time... I read through PAML today during some moments of serious doubt and depression and it seems those fears sometimes don't go for some people. I hope I can enjoy pregnancy when it eventually happens properly again.

    Sunbeam - I have just started charting half-way through this month. Doing vag temping since they say it's more accurate, I figure I need all the accuracy I can get. I haven't used OPKs yet but will be next month. To be honest, I didn't know much about them til recently and always saw them on the shelf and thought silly thoughts like 'who'd need that sort of thing, surely it's not hard to get preg?!' Basically I have fallen preg easily in the past but seems now I can't do it so easily and need more help! We got married september last year and I had been on depo-provera injection for contraception for 18 months prior to that. Early August was my last shot, I was due one early November. Took til Jan I think to get AF back and regular as clock work immediately. Fell preg relatively quick and M/C two days after telling everyone I was pg! was awful - easter sunday.

    Ferrals - welcome back! bet you're glad that move is over now time to have a little rest. Not long til the geneticist appointment. ps. your DH sounds like a real gem!

    Anila - thank you for your words of wisdom. I keep trying to tell myself that I shouldn't take my kids so seriously but sometimes...! Hope you're doing better too

    Milly - So was today as sucky as yesterday? I trust it wasn't and that there was something to brighten your day and put a spark in your step. It's hard waiting for the first AF after MC. Last month I was a wreck. Made things a lot easier to be in here venting.
    Did some research today and yeah, 10 day luteal phase is basically a minimum for successful implant. Now I'm really confused and worried. Considering all sorts of things to try and fix things but I guess will try one month at a time.

    KM1 - how is the bleeding going? Has it slowed down? Hope it does, would be terrible for you to have to go through d&c

    Greenslw - tomorrow will go well, just like today and just like the next day. This one will be your forever baby Hope you get well quickly.

    coco - my sis had a sausage dog called coco My name isn't a pets name but it is a pet name! my dad always called me smallfry when I was growing up. I added the plus when I had my first DD.

    ok I'm going to stop now because you guys are posting like mad!! lol

    Maddison - when the time comes I'll be tracking down your shop and hopefully will see you with a big belly too

  5. #257
    Registered User

    Mar 2009
    Perth WA
    36

    Hi everyone- I wasn't on here for 24 hours and missed so much so sorry if I miss people out...

    ferrals4 well done on the move, hope the new place brings you good luck and a fresh start, and good luck with your results, my fingers are crossed for you.

    Big hugs to coco1411 and maddison, i am in the same boat as you (m/c'd first pregnancy) and reading your posts helped me feel sane...my thoughts are normal after all- so thanks and for us

    Thanks for the hugs Anila, and happy birthday!

    Smallfryplus, my bleeding has picked up a lot actually, sorry if this is TMI but its bright red, like regular AF, and my doc says that could be good cos it might flush everything out- fingers crossed cos then I will hopefully be able to start TTC. DH and I got married in September last year too...hope its a lucky coincidence for us

    Babydust to everyone else and yay for the weekend!

  6. #258
    BellyBelly Life Subscriber

    Nov 2008
    525

    Hello everyone!!!!

    I love that this is such a busy thread - I had previously belonged to a forum where I would put up a post in need of support and it would sit there unanswered for a couple of days. But here, one day away from the pc and three pages of post, and because it's so busy, there's so much support here its great.

    Hello Poppy, Hello Emmy and Hello Maddison - sorry you had to join us too, but welcome.

    Emmy, after number one, I kept the HPT for a while, and then I just found it too depressing, and threw it out. I did fish it out of the bin a few days later, but then threw it out again when I just got too depressed looking at it all the time.
    This time, the day I came home from the hospital, I picked them up, said goodbye and threw them out, I just couldn't look at them, and I didn't fish them out.
    What ever you decide to do will be right for you.

    KM1 - hope you don't need that D&C - that was my biggest fear too.

    Happy Birthday Anila!

    Grrenslw - patience - soon you'll be holding your baby in your arms, I'm sure of it!

    Hello Coco!!! Hello Sunbeam!!!
    Hello Ferrals!!! Hello Smallfry!!!
    Hello to anyone I missed!!!

    he had set up all abbi's baby furniture and made a gorgeous nursery he said abbi wont mind the next baby using her things it was hard seeing it but it's like a new start and abbi will be watching over us and i hope she helps her little sister or brother find their way to us.
    ferrals that is so beautiful and DH sounds like a true gem, and I am sure Abbi will be so pleased that she will soon be able to watch over her little brother or sister!! (wipes a tear)

    Milly - So was today as sucky as yesterday? I trust it wasn't and that there was something to brighten your day and put a spark in your step. It's hard waiting for the first AF after MC. Last month I was a wreck. Made things a lot easier to be in here venting.
    Thanks Smallfry. I had to go into work (was supposed to be on day off) and complete an urgent report. Well because of all the rain and who knows what other excuse, all the computers went down so I lost my network connections AND my hard drive failed at the same time (wonders of technology). My team - which are wonderful, it's just the rest of the world which suck - came to see me as they were leaving, and we made a last minute arrrangement to go to the pub. I finally got my report in, mad dash to pick DH up form work, then to the pub. Where we stayed for several hours, and then went for chinese food. It was a great night, I drank way too much (especially as I hadn't eaten anything since breakfast - oops), but hey. I did have the occasional drink during the several months of TTC (eg after a not successful 2WW, or an occaisional drink early in cycle), and I had a "stiff drink" one night after m/c, but I can't remember the last time I got drunk!

    My cycle -
    I still haven't got AF yet, some spotting and cramps - definatley on her way, but this cycle is just wierd. I hadn't wanted AF to come to early, because we couldn't officially start TTC till after 28/5, and then when I "thought" I ov'd, I didn't want AF to come to early (meaning short luteal phase), but now I want AF to come, because the sooner AF comes, the sooner we will be able to TTC, but then at the same time, I don't want AF to come because I know it will be such a trigger for me.
    After m/c I started taking some supplements - vitex, raspberry leaf and evening primrose oil. Vitex in particluar is supposed to "sort out" (technical term there) cycles. Well, it does seem to have lengthened my luteal phase somewhat, but then I don't know when I ov'd exactly.
    Does anyone else take some supplements, particluarly vitex? would it have worked after only one cycle?
    I have also just started temping, so that I can (in future) know the exact date I ov'd. I have been taking temps orally (becasue I don' t reckon I'm that co-ordinated as soon as I wake up LOL), but it seems that people are taking them vaginally - is there much of a difference?

  7. #259
    Registered User

    Aug 2008
    qld
    2,661

    awe thanks milly

  8. #260
    Registered User

    May 2009
    Bendigo, VIC
    190

    Thank you for all the welcomes!!

    KM1 - I agree, Yay for the weekend. The year is going very fast for me. Im sure counting days and months doesnt help with slowing the year down. Sounds like a lot of us are newly weds. My dh and I were married on Aug 30th last year. I only had bleeding for 2 weeks after my m/c but i only now feel like my body is getting back to normal. It has taken a few months for me. I hope your body is back on track soon so you can ttc again.

    ferrals4 - Im very jealous of your new big house. It sounds lovely. Hopefully the change will bring you luck .

    Smallfryplus - Im hanging out for that big belly!! Though i feel so bloated all the time i think i look pregnant anyway.

    AFM - My chart is all over the place but i believe im 4dpo. I am temping but my last af was May 8th and the one before that was March 8th so its a big mess. Temps suggest im back on track now but o'ed later than usual. Hating the ttw. Not feeling confident about this month.

  9. #261

    Apr 2009
    central coast
    2,298

    Hi girl's
    KM1-the house is awesome i'm a bit worried about the cleaning though.

    Smallfryplus-my DH is the best i can't believe i found him after a 15 yr bad relationship/marriage the minute i wake up my face lights up and he is so fun to be with we have been together for 2 years and through all the heartbreak of losing abbi he has been optomistic that it will be ok he has one daughter from his previous marriage and i would dearly love to give him a baby as i have 3 boy's i feel awlful that i can't give him a heathy baby (yet).

    Maddison-Thanks heaps i am hoping my luck changes it cant get any worse.

    anyway i hope everyone is enjoying there weekend i have today off then work tomorrow my AF is finally finished it was a bit longer than normal this month so now the fun begins.

  10. #262
    Registered User

    Sep 2008
    Adelaide
    676

    girls I'm so scared, there is blood, spots of bright pink blood. OMG I just can't take this what is my body doing to me

  11. #263
    Registered User

    Aug 2008
    qld
    2,661

    oh hun, firstly, take a deep breath, secondly easier said than done, but try and relax, maybe go and put your feet up.
    Do u have someone there that can look after you and do all the running around.
    Im not sure what else i can say atm, i pray that bubba sticks.

  12. #264
    Registered User

    May 2009
    Bendigo, VIC
    190

    Sending lots of prayers your way Greenslw. I hope you are able to rest and stay as calm as possible. Hopefully the spotting will just stop on its own. Lots and lots of super sticky vibes.

  13. #265
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    Aug 2008
    qld
    2,661

    hunni, i hope u are ok, im so worried about you, please let us know how u are going.

  14. #266

    Apr 2009
    central coast
    2,298

    Greenslw-please don't panic spotting can be normal for many women my girlfriend actually bled quite a bit until she was 10 weeks and her baby is fine i know it is hard and i am praying you are ok and your baby is to try to see a doctor if you can.

  15. #267
    Registered User

    Apr 2009
    Melbourne
    533

    honey, I hope you've been able to rest as suggested by Anila and Maddison. I hope too that the bleeding has stopped and that everything is ok It'll be ok. It has to be.

  16. #268
    Registered User

    Jun 2008
    Cardiff Heights
    856

    Just quickly ladies...

    friend of mine told us she is pregnant last night..I was graceful but then I went into my room and bawled my eyes out... I composed myself, then it was clear I had been crying and she came out and hugged me and said she can understand this mucst me hard, and I seriously Just wanted to scream, YOU ARENT EVEN TRYING AND YOU DONT WANT A BABY YET!!! I also wanted to scream that I didnt want to know and although I am happy, I am jealous because I should be pregnant still.. I cried myself to sleep... charming.

    So that I guess answers the question to how I would react to a friend telling me they're pregnant...


    I had a drop yesterday...just as cherished predicted, and I rise today... FF offered to use the OPK as the ovulation day, which made it yesterday. and temping I think will too..

    Hope you're wel, no persies. I will have to come back in a better frame of mind for that.

    Eliza.

  17. #269
    Registered User

    Jun 2008
    Cardiff Heights
    856

    Greens..

    Sorry honey, no advice after my experience, but Im keeping my fingers crossed for you babe xx

  18. #270
    Registered User

    Apr 2009
    Melbourne
    533

    coco hon, it's hard to hear friends are preg. It's good that she tried to understand how hard it is for you to hear her news. Seems life is so unfair when it comes to falling pregnant. In a bad relationship I fell pg twice without trying at all, now that I'm with the best guy since sliced bread, I've M/C twice and find myself losing hope. I know I'm not the only one but I also know that it can and will happen for us all. Hopefully sooner rather than later!

    Keep heart

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